Many women struggle with body image and find flaws with the way they look. Our Kinky Friend, SassyWitch, wrote a blog about finding a way to love yourself and lifting up other women. SassyWitch is usually a submissive (but is learning to top) and has a devoted dominant.
Weight is often mentioned when a person is trying to belittle or hurt another. I have found that it is usually one woman spitting out an insult at another. I am a tiny woman and have had derogatory statements made about my weight in regards to sexuality. “Who wants to snuggle a stick?”
I’m skinny but I still have curves. I am actually underweight no matter what my diet. My sisters are twice my size and barely ever eat. They are beautiful curvy goddesses, and genetics play a large role in how you are going to look. The idea that we can change our body to fit an ideal fuels self-loathing. People often talk about appearance when they are judging others people.
Why should your self confidence be bolstered by smashing mine? Why does my self confidence or self worth depend on your approval?
The media is often blamed for perpetuating a stereotype about what is beautiful. Cosmopolitan, Vanity Fair, and Vogue feature lithe models with perky boobs, long legs, and a teeny waist. Let’s be real. Most women are not super models, but that does not make us less beautiful.
If you have a problem with the way you look or feel others do, it will be difficult to embrace your sexuality. I mean, who wants to strip in front of someone else if you are embarrassed? It’s difficult to surrender to your partner when you want to hide under the covers. It’s impossible put on tight corset and order someone around when you feel like the back end of an old junkyard dog.
In order to spread body positive messages, you can try being more conscious when communicating with other women. You can compliment others who are built differently than you and you can encourage other women. If you tell the girl next to you that she is rocking those jeans with her awesome curvy figure, and she might reply back with a compliment! You both end up feeling great.
I’m the weird girl who always has had more guy friends than friends who were girls. (I’m also a slut, but that’s another article!) I’ve learned so much about what they find attractive by listening to them. Guys like many body types and variety is the spice of life. A man who thinks my skinny ass is sexy may also think the buxom brunette down the road is sexy, too.
I believe that everyone can be sexy. People should revel in their uniqueness and show off what they love the most about themselves. If you’re happy with yourself you’re going to have helluva more fun being open and sexual with partners. Let’s crush these weight wars by embracing each other for who we are and how we look. Love ourselves and each other. Yeah, I know, it sounds cheesy but I’d rather sound cheesy than like a bitchy hateful hag.
So to all you out there, no matter if you’re a little sexy thing like me or a voluptuous babes like my sisters, rock what you got cause you’re a hottie!
(If your kink is name calling, insulting/being insulted then by all means have at it!)