Thrifty Kinksters. Ten Dollars. Super Fun.
BDSM calls to many people but willing kinksters can be inhibited by the cost of the tools. Leather floggers, ball gags, and dental forceps can really break the bank. Your Kinky Friends decided to take on the challenge of creating experiences that cost less than ten bucks that are still fun and sexy.
Price Limit: $10.00
Type of Scene: Spreader Bar
Keywords: bondage, frombe, jaywalking
|Dowel rod (1.5” inch diameter)||$3.00 (Home Depot)|
|4 Screw Eyes||$4.00 (Home Depot)|
|Zip ties or rope||Use what you have at home|
Drill, Drill bit (smaller than your screw eye’s diameter), Sandpaper, Hand Saw, Pencil
A few days before play:
Build the spreader bar! This project takes some effort, but it could be a fun weekend activity for you and your sub.
Measure your sub’s stance. Our main bar is 36” and it keeps my legs a comfortable distance apart. Measure and draw a line where you are going to cut. Hang the little end over the edge of a table and have your sub hold down the rod to keep it steady. Use the saw to cut through your mark. Sand down any rough edges. Drill a pilot hole on each end of the dowel rod and then twist in the screw eyes until they are tight. You can stain your rod or paint it if you choose. You can make the little leftover end into a tiny restraint bar by following the sames steps again. It’s a bonus!
I have great velcro wrist and ankle cuffs that I ordered from Amazon that were part of an under bed restraint system. The toys were less than fifteen dollars and perfect to attach to your spreader bar. Find them here!
You can also use rope or zip ties to attach your sub to the eye screws. Zip ties will need to be cut off with scissors. Practice knot tying if plan on using rope.
Day of play:
It’s time to play with the spreader bar. It’s instant bondage and great for weeknight shenanigans. I like to dress up in lingerie but getting naked works fine, too. Naked is the cheapest! Try different positions with your sub. These are some of my favorites:
Police Pat Down:
Have your sub face the wall and attach the spreader bar to their ankles. Bind their hands behind their back. Role play being busted for a heinous crime like jaywalking.
Bend Over Baby:
Drag your sub by the hair to the bed and have them bend over for inspection. It’s very difficult to move when your face is in the mattress and your feet and hands are strapped to the bar. This is a a great position for doing it frombe. (I wanted a better word than standing doggy style. Frombe came up. It’s maybe a tiny bit better.)
The plow is an amazing kamasutra position that requires flexibility on the the sub’s part. The bar helps maintain a “toe touch” position that allows for deep thrusts and happy campers. It’s fun if both partners hold the bar.
Bondage always physically and mentally exhausts me. The bar can be uncomfortable and cause slight injuries. Make sure you inspect your sub and offer him or her the after care they need. I like to put on my bunny pajamas, have a bottle of water, and have a little back rub. I also like to cuddle my favorite goat stuffie, Nibs.
Let us know if you tried our kinky fun! Feel free to comment other tips you may have about thrifty kink!