It’s not surprising to know that I think most the articles you see in women’s magazines are stupid. They tout these “unheard of sex positions, tricks, and techniques that will drive your partner(s) wild” lists. Most of these articles are usually very simple ideas that have been around forever or incredibly way out there ideas that no person would ever bother trying.
Do you want to know the real way to have better sex with your partner(s)? It’s a big one so hold onto your seats cause I’m gonna blow your mind with this one simple trick:
TALK to your partner!
Yup, that’s right, open your mouth and tell them what you need. Ask them what they need. Throw embarrassment, shyness and self-conscious feelings out the window and speak up.
Why go through years of unsatisfying sex over worrying about what they may be thinking or whether or not they like the same things you do?
If you can’t talk to your partner(s) about sex who can you talk to? It’s a natural and normal part of life. It doesn’t matter if you like the vanilla missionary position or if you like to wear a leather kitty costume and give oral while handcuffed and chained to the wall. What matters is you tell your partner(s) what you need and listen to their ideas.
I promise you if you open up your mouth and speak up it will improve your sex life immensely. You may find out that you and your partner(s) are in complete agreement or you may learn it’s time to look for someone who has a mindset a little closer to yours. Or work to find compromise.
I speak from experience. My spouse is very shy, quiet and was raised to be a good Christian boy. He couldn’t talk about our sex life for years and in turn it, made me feel self conscious about what I felt and what I wanted. I was 23 years old when we married. I didn’t know how to talk to him about what I needed in the bedroom. But not finding fulfillment quickly began changing the undercurrent of our marriage and left me frustrated. So I spoke up! And I’m glad I did.
I’m no authority but it seems to me this is pretty simple and honest. It isn’t rocket science! So the next time you see one of those dime a dozen articles and you think it may hold some cosmic secret just remember you hold the best and most effective secret within you. You just have to share it with your partner(s) !