My husband asked me once why I like to be spanked, flogged and handled roughly. He wanted to understand why I like the things that cause pain. I explained him that it helps me cope with my disabilities.
Now you may ask what does BDSM have to do with being disabled? Well, that’s easy. Many of us with disabilities have conditions/illnesses/diseases/
Being flogged or spanked helps your blood to flow more freely and when you’re excited it releases endorphins that help ease pain. So yes, there’s that initial stinging pain with a smack of a whip/flogger but after that, endorphins and increased circulation help to ease the pain.
It may seem insane that I enjoy spanking because I have tumors all over my body and some can be extremely painful when touched just the right way. For example, I have one in my left ring finger that if it’s just barely touched it feels like a needle being shoved all the way through the side of my fingernail. But I know where those tumors are and they’re easily avoided during playtime.
I’ve learned that many disabled people are like me and hate being handled with care and caution. Many of us kinky disabled people love it rough. We crave it and many have begged for it. Yes, begging can be fun, but this isn’t the kind we have in mind, it’s just frustrating. The knowledge that I need to experience pain to relieve pain can be hard to communicate to a partner.
I realized I wanted to be spanked to help relieve my pain when I saw an article about how spankings can relieve pain. I thought HELL YEAH! I can get spanked and ease pain! OH YES! SPANK ME HONEY !!
I was curled up in ball suffering in agonizing pain and even my multitude of pills wasn’t helping me. I asked my husband if he’d play with me in an attempt to curb how bad I was hurting. He reluctantly said he would even though he thought I was crazy and that it wouldn’t help or that he’d hurt me more. We soon learned that it did help!
If you experience chronic pain consider taking a whack at it with the paddle! What could it hurt ?