I love Halloween. The atmosphere of delightfully creepy things is the perfect backdrop for wicked fun. Now, people are allowed to dress up any time of year. If I want to dress as Batman on the fourth of July, I will put on a mask and run around my house saving the houseplants. I may want to be a sissy maid on a Tuesday night so I put on my French maid outfit and let my Domme fuck me with a strap-on dildo. I can do this any day of the year, but the Halloween season makes dressing up magical.
It feels so good to put on a costume and be someone different for a little while. Adults have the option to add the spin of sex appeal to their tricks and treats. Normally shy people may be strutting around in corsets and thongs and the energy is infectious. The classic sexy costumes like French maid, sexy nurse, or Morticia from The Addams Family are always a welcome sight, but the creative aspect of Halloween makes it extra exciting. I never know what sexed up concoction I will see at a dungeon party, Wal-Mart, or tagging along for trick or treating. I may see John Snow from Game of Thrones looking hot in a pair of fishnets with a little cleavage showing or Bert and Ernie in ball gags and leather. Adults are sexual beings and Halloween is the perfect holiday to let sexual creativity come out to play.
The sexuality of Halloween costumes has always intrigued me. So, I asked my kinky friends about how outfits affect and change their sex lives.
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Venus Babylon is an alien from another planet who does alien abduction porn, fisting, art projects, and more. We talk aliens, science fiction, BDSM kink, femdom, phone sex, and camming.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and talks with her in a video interview.
SADISM: the tendency to derive pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others.
Consensual sadism is quite common in the BDSM community, but the practices vary widely depending on the participants. Some sadists enjoy sensual sadism. This can be defined in many ways but it loosely involves the infliction of pain mixed with pleasure. Both participants tend to enjoy the scene and have agreed upon terms. Other sadists engage in brutal, violent acts that may not be sexual and fulfill a need for power. Sadism can seem scary to those who don’t understand the dynamic and question why participants get a rush from it. I wanted to learn more about Our Kinky Friends who use pain, humiliation, and suffering in their scenes.
So… I asked some questions to my kinky sadist friends so that we could learn more about this kink.
Continue reading Our Kinky SADIST Friends Part I by Nicholas Tanek
Mistress Fenris Wolf & Lady Lilah Wilde are friends and business partners. Mistress Fenris is a sadist and a professional Dominatrix. Lady Lilah Wilde is also a professional Dominatrix who embodies values of cruelty, comfort, and culture. They both run Wilde Fenris Production.
Nicholas Tanek sits down for a video chat with them.
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Money is power. It’s as simple as that. If you give it or if you receive it, there is a power exchange. Findom (or Financial Dommes) basically make a living using their sexuality to have people give them money. Sometimes, it’s sadistic and humiliating. Other times, it’s more of a situation where the client wants to spoil and make the financial Dominatrix happy. Either way, this is a popular but misunderstood fetish. So, I asked some of my FinDom friends some questions and here are their answers.
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Miztress Tia is a Professional Dominatrix located on the East Coast of Canada. She has been described as evil and mean, yet most who come to know her find her warm and empathetic once they get past her intimidating persona. Her specialty is impact play however she does offer other services that can be found on her website Miztresstia.com. She can also be found on Twitter and Fetlife under the same name.
Nicholas Tanek sits down as has a video interview with her.
It is not uncommon for people coming into BDSM to use caricatures as a model on how to act until they figure themselves out. These caricatures are sometimes based on our limited books/movies and extensive porn. Other times they are based on a preconceived notion of how someone with “that identity” would act. In the beginning of finding your identity having a caricature can be empowering. It can give you an idea into who you want to be. I remember my caricature as a new Dominant. The caricature I assumed was quiet, calm, and hyper vigilant. It took so much energy that I couldn’t sustain it outside of the public BDSM space, but that is when I felt I needed it.
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The inspiring suggestions from Nicholas’s interviewees continue to impress me. This week’s thrifty spotlight includes tips from Alex Andrews, sex worker alumnus and activist; Lady Remedy Ann, professional Mistress; Jacqi Kill, lead singer of THE BAD DRUGS and fetish entertainer; and Satin Jade, satin fetishist.
Continue reading BDSM On A Budget: YKF Interviewee Edition (part four) #ThriftyKinkThursday