Talking Dirty! BDSM On A Budget #ThriftyKinkThursday


by Miss_Melissa_

When it comes to sexuality, people often overlook the sexiest of sex organs: the brain. Sexy, after all, is a state of mind. It doesn’t matter your dress size, your blemishes, your physical limitations, your lingerie or lack thereof – it’s all in the presentation. It’s an attitude. It’s a voice. You can use your imagination and your words to paint a scene, to transport your partner to a place they’ve never been before.

“I’ve been told that I’m very, very good at this.”

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VIDEO CHAT: Terra Genesis w/ Nicholas Tanek

Terra has been a cam model since 2014, starting on, a former camsite affiliated with where she was a top earner for 3 months before expanding her audience to mainstream communities like Charturbate and Streamate. Craving a more kink-friendly community, Terra made moves to launch her own site, and now cams full time on Offline, Terra is involved in her local kink community, loves rope, impact play and exploring new kinks and fetishes.


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VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Mia Darque w/ Nicholas Tanek

Mistress Mia Darque has been a 6’3″ Oklahoma Amazon for nearly 7 years. She is a mature 39-year old BBW. She first got into the lifestyle in her very early twenties in Chicago, IL and turned it into a profession in 2013. She was trained in a house that believed that you cannot be in a position of power without knowing what it’s like to be in the position of submission. So, first roll in BDSM was in a submissive in a Polly House of 11 individuals. Her dominance has always come to me naturally not because of the clothes that she wears or parties she attend, but more because of the mindset of “I can do for myself, so what is it you possibly have to offer?”. Her country girl exterior helps to hide her serious sadistic sorry just long enough to be able to put the fear into people’s hearts that makes mine simply skip a beat.
Because of her size and stature and demeanor, she excels at particular types and styles of domination including but not limited to… ABDL, Extreme Corporal Punishments, Lift & Carry, Interrogations, Race Play and much more. She also loves to indulge in role-play/cosplay scenes and sessions, especially with her Nerdcore clientele. This can be as mild as Frodo Baggins getting a spanking from his sword (Sting) by a Nazgul with a chip on its shoulder to Kylo-Ren being bound in ecstasy filled semi-suspension well-being tickle tortured by Darth Vader for being a whiny grandchild. She enjoys all of my sessions but these do tend to hold a special place in my heart.
In May of 2018, she was honored by being asked to be Mistress of Ceremonies at DomCon Los Angeles. This along with speaking on the subjects of polyamory and people of color in kink and fetish are some of the highlights of her career. In the aspect of lifestyle domination, she is a proud member of multiple organizations and play spaces/dungeons including ClubFem DFW Dallas-Fort Worth, TX,  Impact of Memphis, TN and Xpressions of Tulsa, OK.

VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Lillian Bastet w/ Nicholas Tanek

Mistress Lillian Bastet is a Professional Dominatrix and Artist based out of San Francisco, California. It was through her performance art that she got introduced to the world of BDSM and began to dive into the practices of domination. She approaches each session as she does her art by creating an open space for expression, creativity, and catharsis to be shared and witnessed. She refers to herself as a sensual sadist and especially enjoys play that involves some type of intentional transformation. Activities such as impact play, (to experience pain for release and pleasure), sensory deprivation (to free the mind and listen to the body), feminization (to be seen in a new way without judgment), and slave training (to teach and expand one’s ability to understand and practice servitude.) are just some of her favorites. Regardless of the play, she is most inspired by the unique connection that can happen in the D/s dynamic and feels that through this vulnerability, the empowerment of each individual can be awakened.

As a makeup and performance artist, Mistress Lillian enjoys developing and evolving herself as a dominatrix and finds that this seeps into her artistry outside of the dungeon space. She can be seen performing in clubs and stages around the Bay Area or collaborating on conceptual photography for digital and print. Having recently attended her first DomCon, she is more inspired than ever to do and promote this kind of work and is looking to develop workshops that offer insight into the practiced skills and creative passion that go into being a dominatrix.

Nicholas Tanek has a video chat with her.


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BDSM On A Budget: YKF Interviewee Edition #ThriftyKinkThursday

by Miss_Melissa_

In his interviews, the Esteemed Nicholas Tanek has graciously included a budget kink question as a nod to these Thrifty Kink articles we try to post each week. The amazing folks that have answered this question have given some really fantastic ideas, and so I thought it was time to start harvesting these pearls of wisdom.

This is the first part in an ongoing series of Thrifty Kink articles that will feature a handful of excellent budget-minded BDSM gear suggestions from the witty, resourceful, kinky minds of the many people Nicholas has and will interview in days to come!
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VIDEO CHAT: Jacqi Kill (The Bad Drugs) w/ Nicholas Tanek

Jacqi Kill is the lead singer of punk rock band, THE BAD DRUGS. She is a Houston born and raised, communist, professional makeup artist, kinkster, and musician. A genderqueer, polyamorous, catgirl wrangler, and punk scene native.

Jacqi has worked as a fetish entertainer, creating fun and kinky nightclub scenes. Jacqi lives in the city with her two cats and is doubly partnered.


She is in the band called The Bad Drugs.

Heroes Of The Kink Community Part III by Nicholas Tanek


Since starting, I have been honored to meet so many wonderful kinky people. They inspired the “Heroes of the Kink Community” series. Now, I respect, support, and love all the people in the past articles. I am truly in awe of these titans of kink who got involved with these articles.

So, my kinky friends, here are some more heroes of the kink community.

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VIDEO CHAT: Satin Jade w/ Nicholas Tanek

Satin Jade was born and raised in Amsterdam, The Netherlands. She has always seen satin as a sensual, feminine, and classy fabric. She loves to be dressed in negligees, underwear, as well as high heels and that secretary look. So in puberty, she was a little insecure and thought it was not for her. But when she got older, satin was still on her mind and something she thought a man would think of as sexy.

Then, she met her husband to be and his love for satin was very strong. Now, it’s grown in to a fetish.

She says it feels great on her skin, so smooth, sexy, and sensual. She wears it all the time.

Nicholas Tanek sits down with her for a chat.

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VIDEO CHAT: Lucy Sweetkill & Dia Dynasty from La Maison du Rouge


La Maison du Rouge is focused on expanding the BDSM experience by discussing, educating, and informing our audiences about the intersections of kink, wellness, sexuality, spirituality, and social activism. We aim to build community in this regard by creating a safe space for discussing these topics as well as advocating the normalization of alternative sexualities.  By challenging current social norms, we aspire to bolster a culture around consent and open communication.
LMdR was founded on the compassionate and principled interests of the professional dominatrix duo Lucy Sweetkill and Dia Dynasty. After meeting at a commercial BDSM house and spending many years building a sisterhood, Lucy and Dia ventured to create something of their own. They are committed to elevating BDSM and fostering community through intersectional discourse and sharing personal narratives.

A Kinky Start – Our Friends Discuss Their First Real Kink Experience by Nicholas Tanek

Everything has a beginning. There are various ways to initiate a kinky/BDSM lifestyle. It may start with playfully exploring kink and the offer of a little spank here or there. Perhaps, dabbling in light bondage awakens something inside of you. Or maybe, you slip on silk panties just to try them on for fun. But then one day the line between curiosity and desire is crossed, and you discover a driving need for more. BDSM becomes part of your life. So I asked a couple of my kinky friends about their first experiences of living out fantasies.

Here are their answers…

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