Nicholas Tanek was making his own straight jackets as a teenager (see my favorite chapter in Chipped Black Nail Polish, titled “homemade straight jacket”), so I gave him one for his birthday several years ago. The best thing about the straight jacket is that I can use bondage even when I’m too tired to take out my rope. Lazy BDSM is still fantastic sex, but I decided we were long overdue for a session with some thoughtful planning behind it. I wanted to use something with a more complete restrictive feeling than rope or a straight jacket.
Let’s have some fun with sensory deprivation, and let’s do it for FREE! Or at least for under ten bucks, depending on what you have at home.
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Lady Absinthe is a fetish model, Mistress, and cam girl. She specializes in Anal Training, Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Jerk-off Instruction, Orgasm Denial, Chastity Training, Submission, Tit/Nipple Torture, Whips, Condoms, Gags & Blindfolds, Humiliation, Masks, Rubber / Latex / PVC, Smoking, Foot Fetish, Outfit, Tattoos, FinDom.
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Dominatrix V is the founder/owner of The House Of V Fetish Studio. She is a professional Dominatrix, Queer Femme kink performer, Fetish Barberette and Owner of The Fluffy Boudoir Sissies and cross dressing salon.
Nicholas Tanek has a video chat with her.
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Mistress Lillian Bastet is a Professional Dominatrix and Artist based out of San Francisco, California. It was through her performance art that she got introduced to the world of BDSM and began to dive into the practices of domination. She approaches each session as she does her art by creating an open space for expression, creativity, and catharsis to be shared and witnessed. She refers to herself as a sensual sadist and especially enjoys play that involves some type of intentional transformation. Activities such as impact play, (to experience pain for release and pleasure), sensory deprivation (to free the mind and listen to the body), feminization (to be seen in a new way without judgment), and slave training (to teach and expand one’s ability to understand and practice servitude.) are just some of her favorites. Regardless of the play, she is most inspired by the unique connection that can happen in the D/s dynamic and feels that through this vulnerability, the empowerment of each individual can be awakened.
As a makeup and performance artist, Mistress Lillian enjoys developing and evolving herself as a dominatrix and finds that this seeps into her artistry outside of the dungeon space. She can be seen performing in clubs and stages around the Bay Area or collaborating on conceptual photography for digital and print. Having recently attended her first DomCon, she is more inspired than ever to do and promote this kind of work and is looking to develop workshops that offer insight into the practiced skills and creative passion that go into being a dominatrix.
Nicholas Tanek has a video chat with her.
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Lady Remedy Ann is a sensually charged Mistress from Los Angeles. She offers professional services out of Sanctuary Studios since they first opened up almost 7 years ago. she was independent prior to that since 2006. Specialties are latex, She is also a fetish performance artist and have done 2 feature films “Code name Diablo.” and “The Blond Squad.” She is also in the music video Phantagram’s “You don’t get me high anymore.” She has also performed at AVN, DomCon, and have been featured and several cable shows about BDSM.
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Everything has a beginning. There are various ways to initiate a kinky/BDSM lifestyle. It may start with playfully exploring kink and the offer of a little spank here or there. Perhaps, dabbling in light bondage awakens something inside of you. Or maybe, you slip on silk panties just to try them on for fun. But then one day the line between curiosity and desire is crossed, and you discover a driving need for more. BDSM becomes part of your life. So I asked a couple of my kinky friends about their first experiences of living out fantasies.
Here are their answers…
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Goddess Nyx is a Los Angeles based artist, fetish model and experience creator with a penchant for freaks and a body of curves that will take your breath away… literally. Her fetish interests are deeply varied and ever-growing, but some of her favorites include smothering/squishing, sensation play, wrestling, sploshing, pet play and cbt. When she is not busting balls at Sanctuary Studios she is usually working on her line of faux fur clothing and kink accessories, because she believes that life would be better if it were fuzzier.
Jacquie Blu lives in Los Angeles. She produces, directs, performs and edits with her own company, Blu Dreamz. She creates trans porn, BDSM and fetish films for content trade. She works with all types of talent, so any and all performers willing to do content trade work are welcome to shoot with her. She has had nominations for two awards for the Transgender Erotica Awards 2017 and 2018.
Here, she sits down with Nicholas Tanek for a video chat.
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Combining kink with music can turn up the heat and bring added frivolity to any scene. There are countless lists of songs for sexy time and most are geared for vanilla realm of sweet candlelit missionary sex. Kinky people need a sound track, too! I thought about the scene in 50 Shades of Gray where the dude presents his lady with an I-pad of songs that make him tickle in his pants. This reminded me of the beloved mixtape. I had a sweet dual-deck pink jam box in the 90s, and I would stay up late to capture songs off the radio to weave into a musical love letter for some lucky guy. I decided to create a mixtape of sorts for my favorite kinks. Chill thumpy electronica is the sound track in most dungeons and it’s good for lulling patrons into a “get sexy” state of mind, but there is so much fun music in the world. Check out my picks, have some fun, and remember you can always skip to the next one if it is not your jam.
Please play safely and be prepared for injury or emergency by having a cell phone and first aid kit close to your play space. Continue reading Kinky Mixtape, Sorta
How many times have you had an orgasm or gave someone an orgasm just by talking with them over the phone? Ever since I was a teenager, I have loved to have phone sex with girlfriends. I still do it as an adult. PepLove.com is a female-owned BDSM/kink phone sex group that is unlike any other phone sex company. They do not just do kinky phone sex. They also do “kink counseling.” Trust me when I say this: they are magnificent women who are smart, funny, understanding, and kinky. So, I asked our PepLove friends about their professional lives.
Here are their answers…
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