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Our BDSM Erotica Author Friends by Nicholas Tanek
We know some BDSM Erotica authors who truly represent the kink community and the culture. When I published The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself, it was filed under the genre of romance. My book is a true love story that includes kinky sex. One of the major themes in the book is how exploring kink can be healing. At the time, 50 Shades of Grey was very popular, and so many authors tried to jump on the bandwagon. When I was promoting my book, I was overwhelmed by the number of authors who did not represent BDSM in the proper way. As someone who is active in the kink community, it annoyed me. I understand some books are just fantasy, but I still think that BDSM Erotica authors have a responsibility to the kink community and their readers.
So, I asked some of my BDSM Erotica author friends several questions. Here are their answers.
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HEROES OF THE KINK COMMUNITY Part 1
by Nicholas Tanek
Heroes save lives and the kink community saved mine. My life was a mess. I met some wonderful people who have been kind and helpful throughout my journey within the kink community. This is only part one in a series about people who I truly think are heroes in the kink community.
So, I talked to some of my kinky heroes and asked them questions about giving back to the community. Here are their answers.
It’s a Picture of my Butt: Boudoir Photography
by Tangled Blue
I am not perfect. I have curves from too many french fries and a serious goldfish cracker habit. I find myself googling diets, potions, and magic spells in the vain attempt to reshape my body to be more aesthetically pleasing on a regular basis. I’ve had two children and carrying them in my body changed me in many wonderful ways, but also left scars that dimple my once flat belly. I have wrinkles! I have wrinkles on my neck! My boobs are succumbing to gravity, and I am considering propping them up with toothpicks. I could continue listing my flaws indefinitely, but with age and experience also comes insight. I carry my history in every crease and bump. I like who I am and I wanted to find a way to celebrate myself as I am right now. I decided to do a boudoir shoot to see my body through a photographer’s lens in the hope that I may better appreciate what I see in the mirror. Continue reading It’s a Picture of my Butt: Boudoir Photography
My First Sex Toy: Weird Shit We Did Before We Had Proper Sex Toys
by Miss_Melissa_
Did you ever hump the side of the bath tub or the arm of the couch? Did you ever make a masturbation tent because teenage-you couldn’t stand the staring, judging eyes of all the posters on your walls and ceiling? Did you ever put something that wasn’t “body safe” inside of yourself, lose hold of it, and then pee your bed trying to push it back out? No? Is it just me? Listen, we’re all friends here. Be honest. I know I’m not the only one.
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Podcast: Ep. 17-Lola Davina – Author & former sex worker on Consensually Speaking with Gio
New Episode starring Author & former sex worker @lola_davina!
KEEPING YOUR KINKY LIFE SECRET by Nicholas Tanek
I am “out” as a kinky person, but many of our friends like to keep their kinky lifestyle private. Some have important jobs. Some have judgmental friends and family members. Others just prefer to keep their kink hidden. For whatever the reason, people sometimes go to great lengths to keep their kinky lifestyle hidden.
So, I asked a couple of our kinky friends about keeping their kinky life a secret. Here are their answers…
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#MeToo – Our Friends (And My Mother) Talk about Sexual Misconduct and Sexual Harassment
By Nicholas Tanek
My mother and father taught me to respect people. They would tell me, “Treat people how you would like to be treated.” When I was young, I’m sure I made the improper or obnoxious joke every once in a while. I’ve grown up and I’ve changed. Being friends with women and listening to women changed me.
Throughout the years of hanging out with female friends, I have learned that many males can be considered a predator. There are women who live in a constant state of terror due to misogyny and sexism. I went to college in the 1990s during a heightened state of campus date-rape awareness. The last thing I wanted to do was make a person feel unsafe. At the same time, sexual misconduct can come from women too. I’ve personally experienced it. These days, the #MeToo movement has sparked a full-on revolution on how people look at sexuality, sexual misconduct, and sexual harassment.
The BDSM Episode w/ Nicholas Tanek & Luna Darke – One Guy Talking Podcast
This is video of Nicholas Tanek & Luna Darke being guests on the One Guy Talking Podcast. It’s the BDSM/kink episode.
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Embrace Your Inner Weirdo
Our Kinky Friends Discuss the Beauty of Being Eccentric
By Nicholas Tanek
I’m not only kinky, but I’m a weirdo. I like weird films. I like bizarre music. I like to eat weird foods. When I was a teenager, I made homemade straight jackets and came in my pants. I enjoyed staring into space for long periods of time and made bizarre noises for fun. I didn’t even understand it. Even before I did drugs, I loved absurd humor. One of my favorite sketches was “The Pear Dream” from The Kids in The Hall. When Adult Swim came along, I felt like there was a whole bunch of people who understood me… even though I didn’t always understand their work.
I don’t try to be weird. (Okay…sometimes I do when I’m hanging out with my other weird friends to make them laugh.) My point is my eccentric behavior is deeply ingrained in me. I think it is a mixture of OCD, my addiction issues, my love of psychedelic culture, and my love of the creative arts. After all this time, I am comfortable being this weirdo and I don’t care what “normal” people think of my weirdness.
Being a part of the kink community, I’ve met some wonderful and weird people who embrace their eccentricities. So I asked them a couple of questions about being weird, feeling weird, and embracing their weirdness. Here are their answers.