The Your Kinky Friends Video Chat Valentine’s Day Spectacular with Nicholas Tanek 2019

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY

Nicholas Tanek, Luna Darke, Miss Melissa sit down and talk about kinky Valentine’s Day adventures with special guests Piper Kush, Giselle Thibodeaux, and Forneycation.

We have some wild stories to tell.

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VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Lauren Bizarre with Nicholas Tanek

Mistress Lauren Bizarre (aka Bizarre Lauren) is a professional Dominatrix from the Netherlands. She is active in the BDSM community and celebrates kink. She discusses slaves, chastity, CBT, and much more.

Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.

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VIDEO CHAT: Amanda from Blunt Mommy Podcast with Nicholas Tanek

Amanda is the host of The Blunt Mommy Podcast. She is a #Louisianimal, works in finance and is a single mother. Her favorite thing to do is talk about sex. Anything and everything about SEX. She also drinks and burps during the podcast.  Get your kink on. 

Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.

NOTE: She burps (loud) 9 times throughout this interview.

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Serving in Public By Master Bear

Doing service in public is a completely different animal than serving in private. The noise, distractions, and challenges of a public event make being a conscientious servant very different than serving in a private venue. I encourage people to practice public service at a BDSM event to gain confidence and poise.  This different type of experience allows you to troubleshoot elements to work on to strengthen your bond.

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VIDEO CHAT: Antique Deb from Slave Nation Radio with Nicholas Tanek

Antique Deb is the host of Slave Nation Radio on Beaten Path Network. She considers herself a lifestyle slave and has her own wonderful radio show.

Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.

Caricatures in BDSM by Master Bear

 It is not uncommon for people coming into BDSM to use caricatures as a model on how to act until they figure themselves out. These caricatures are sometimes based on our limited books/movies and extensive porn.  Other times they are based on a preconceived notion of how someone with “that identity” would act. In the beginning of finding your identity having a caricature can be empowering. It can give you an idea into who you want to be.  I remember my caricature as a new Dominant. The caricature I assumed was quiet, calm, and hyper vigilant.  It took so much energy that I couldn’t sustain it outside of the public BDSM space, but that is when I felt I needed it.

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VIDEO CHAT: Slave Heather with Nicholas Tanek

Slave Heather is in a D/s relationship and considers herself her Master’s slave (Master David). She is also in a leather family.

Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.

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Anticipatory Service by Master Bear

Anticipatory Service by Master Bear

As far as I am concerned, anticipatory service is the highest level of service achievable. It makes my life easier and speaks directly to my sense of Mastery. This type of service is given before asked and many times before I know what I need or want. For others anticipatory service is considered disobedience. Those Masters believe that if they did not request something then the slave should not assume it. In the assumption, the slaves think for themselves and this is not allowed.

Living M/s 24/7: Punishment by Master Bear

 

There are many things that separate Masters from each other and philosophies on punishment is one of the biggest. The social expectation is that Masters are emotionally removed and deliver harsh physical punishment at the drop of the hat. The worse the punishment the more “Masterly” the Master is considered.  On the other side a slave that receives this type of punishment is supposed to glow and excel in its presence.

I suppose that works for some people. It however, does not work for me.

Over the last 17 years, I have developed a few rules about punishment:

  • It cannot take any of my time, effort, or energy.
  • It must redirect teach, explain, reinforce, and ultimately create a behavioral change.
  • It cannot make me feel icky.

Let us look at each one.

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Living M/s (Master/slave) 24/7 by Master Bear

The Rule of Three – Part One

The biggest mistake that I see most new Masters make is having an extensive list of things that they want their slave to do. New Masters often times put unnecessary pressure on themselves by expecting everything all at once. Having a huge list in the beginning creates a couple of different issues.

First off, understand that if you as a Master cannot remember all of the things that you are requesting of your slave then why should your slave remember?  Secondly, this creates an unrealistic expectation on both you as well as your slave as to what can be realistically achieved in the early days of your dynamic. Slaves want to excel, they want to give, and they want to be the best they can for the Masters that they love. So set them and you up for success.

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