How many times have you had an orgasm or gave someone an orgasm just by talking with them over the phone? Ever since I was a teenager, I have loved to have phone sex with girlfriends. I still do it as an adult. PepLove.com is a female-owned BDSM/kink phone sex group that is unlike any other phone sex company. They do not just do kinky phone sex. They also do “kink counseling.” Trust me when I say this: they are magnificent women who are smart, funny, understanding, and kinky. So, I asked our PepLove friends about their professional lives.
Here are their answers…
Elaina de La Mer
Elaina is a lifestyle Mistress and PEP Lady since 2013. She has been the Executive Coordinator of PEP since 2015. She is open to exploring all areas of sexuality including kink, fetish, and BDSM with clients and especially enjoys exploring topics that are considered taboo. One specialty is forced feminization/sissification. She enjoys facilitating her clients’ fantasies and helping them to be able to open-up and be themselves. In doing so, they are able to accept their kinks and grow as a person, submissive, slut or slave. Along with her phone sex and in-person sessions, Elaina produces fetish clips for Giantess, Incest, and Femdom fans.
https://www.mistresselaina.com/
https://www.clips4sale.com/studio/88242/elainas-world-of-kink
http://www.peplove.com/ladies/elaina-de-la-mer
Phone: 505.600.1385
Tumblr: http://bdsmelaina.tumblr.com/
http://www.peplove.com/ladies/elaina-de-la-mer
mailto:elainadelamer@gmail.com
What are the most popular fetishes and kinks that callers specifically want to talk about with you?
The most popular fetish requests that I receive are feminization and incest role play.
How do you prepare for a day of work?
I take a few minutes in the morning to wake up and have my coffee and check my messages. Then, I pull up all the sites I need for the day on my computer and log in to PEPLOVE.com.
What are some challenges you face as a phone sex worker, at work and in your personal life?
The most challenging aspect for me is balancing work and personal time to maintain my mental and physical health. At this point, I believe I do a good job of keeping that balance.
What do you want first-time callers to know about the protocols of phone sex?
The most important thing for them to know is that they are calling a professional service and should treat us as such. Keep your questions brief and specific to booking the call. All other questions and fantasies should be addressed once the paid call has begun.
VIDEO INTERVIEW WITH ELAINA DE LA MER
VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Elaina de la Mer (PepLove) w/ Nicholas Tanek
Ami Mercury
Ami Mercury is a model, writer, and creator of the upcoming novel and art project, Orc Girl. She considers herself a nerdy goth girl who is very kinky. As a professional fetish model and cam girl, she has done various kinky videos that include dressing up as a clown, wearing diapers, and being a strict Mommy. She is also an active PepLove lady.
Twitter: https://twitter.com/AmiMercury
Tumblr: http://theamimercury.tumblr.com/
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/OrcGirl
MyFetishLive: http://myfetishlive.com/AmiMercury
What are the most popular fetishes and kinks that callers specifically want to talk about with you?
Probably what I get asked for most often is strap-on play and Mom/son roleplay. Since I’m into diaper fetish, I get a lot of adult baby calls, as well.
How do you prepare for a day of work?
Having a cup of coffee before work is a necessary part of my morning routine. I’ve found that I tend to work best when I’ve had at least an hour of “chill time” before logging in. Other than that, I just get dressed, turn on some music in my office, and log in to wait for calls. My “prep work” is an ongoing process throughout my shift. I spend time on social media advertising that I’m online and interacting with clients, but I also do individual prep work for each call depending on what the client wants. Sometimes, the client may want me to use props (paddles, whips, belts, diapers, dildos, etc.) so that he can hear me use them over the phone. Occasionally, I’ve had clients request something that I’m not as well-versed in. So, I’ll spend a little time before our call researching that specific subject. I think webcam calls probably require the most preparation. I typically request that the client give me about 30 minutes prior to the call to get ready. I need to set-up my lighting, hook-up my webcam, get changed into a specific outfit if they requested it, and possibly put on a little bit of make-up. Sometimes the clients aren’t thrilled about having to wait 30 minutes, but when I inform them that it’s because I want my show to be at its best quality for them, they usually understand.
What are some challenges you face as a phone sex worker, at work and in your personal life?
At work, I think my biggest challenge is trying to get into the heads of clients who are a little more shy about their desires, so that I can better understand what they want. I think the other challenge is trying to walk the thin tightrope that separates playing out the fantasy and being my authentic self. At PEP, we always strive for sincerity and authenticity, but we still want to keep up the fantasy for them. I think what trips me up the most is when clients ask, “So what turns YOU on?” I’m dedicated to giving the client the experience he asked and paid for, so getting asked what I want sometimes throws me for a loop. When I first started doing phone sex, I used to just reply to this question with general answers like bondage, spanking, gangbangs, but I felt that it often came out rather trite, as it wasn’t the full story. Aside from my diaper fetish, I also have a monster fetish. I’m turned on by fantasy stories of maidens swept away by fearsome creatures like orcs, werewolves, dragons, etc. I didn’t want my client to be turned off, but eventually, I realized that getting to know little bits of my personality, even the quirky things, is in and of itself a turn-on for most of my clients. So now, I’m much more open about what I like. However, I always give a disclaimer: “Well, what I like is a little esoteric and strange. Are you SURE you want to know?” Actually, I think the disclaimer just makes them more interested.
As for my personal life, I’ve found that phone sex tends to follow Murphy’s Law. I could be slow for hours, not even a spam caller. The one time I go to the bathroom without my phone, THAT’S when I’ll get a call. Sex workers make plans and our clients laugh at them. I’m always grateful for any calls I get, even if I can’t take them at that moment, but it can be a little frustrating as we all have obligations in our personal lives that may not correspond with our clients’ schedules. I think the biggest challenge I have is not only being flexible, but also not beating myself up when I can’t be flexible. When I first started, and I would miss a call because of sleep, meals, or sheer mental exhaustion, I would panic. I’d think, “Oh no, they aren’t going to call me ever again!” And true, we need to make ourselves available enough so that the client knows we’re reliable, but most clients understand that we can’t be on the phones ALL the time, either.
What do you want first-time callers to know about the protocols of phone sex?
Like I mentioned above, I have a lot of clients who are shy. They feel self-conscious talking about their desires, which is understandable. But what I want first-time callers to know, above all else, is that phone sex counselors aren’t here to judge them or ridicule them (unless that just happens to be their kink, but even that requires further conversation). We’re here to help them explore their fantasies. I never want to make a caller feel uncomfortable, but I do encourage them to give me as many details as they are able, because that will help me to make their experience better.
I also want them to know that asking questions is fine -when it pertains to what they want the show to be about, what the counselor’s expertise is, billing, specials, etc. But more intimate questions like our shoe size, bra size, what turns us on, is best left for a paid call. We want our clients to have enough information to feel comfortable, and confident that a paid call with us will be enjoyable, but we also want our clients to understand that we are professionals, and our time is valuable. We have the PEP website, and our social media accounts for them to peruse at their leisure to learn a little bit more about us. If they want to know more than what we are willing to share publicly, or to have an experience catered specifically to their interests, then we deserve to be compensated for the time spent.
VIDEO INTERVIEW WITH AMI MERCURY –
Empress Wu
The Empress Jazmin Wu is an elite dominatrix who has made the training of humans her life passion. Her focuses as a dominatrix are more cerebral than most. She firmly believes that sex happens 90% in the mind. She practices deep psychological play, Master/slave dynamic, hardcore humiliation, and worship. She also works at Peplove.
She is building a photo series with some of her personal slaves that tell a narrative into the real-life fantasy that she lives out day to day. She conducts very private and artistically inspired sessions with very select clientele. She is starting a kinky blog about her adventures and views into Female Domination and the presence of taboo in our culture. She has been traveling and hosting kink parties coast to coast. Her goal is to continue in HER walk as a Female dominant and hopes to be a positive advocate for human sexuality here in the US.
social media:
Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, & Fetlife
she can be found as @ThankYouEmpress
Her website https://www.thankyouempress.com
PepLove: http://www.peplove.com/ladies/empress-wu
What are the most popular fetishes and kinks that callers specifically want to talk about with you?
At Pep, we specialize in extreme and taboo topics. Slave training and chastity. 75% is therapy and acceptance. As a Domme, I provide acceptance therapy to submissive people.
How do you prepare for a day of work?
I start with hot tea, green tea.
What are some challenges you face as a phone sex worker, at work and in your personal life?
My phone always rings when I’m with family and when I don’t want it to.
What do you want first-time callers to know about the protocols of phone sex?
When you call a lady, don’t immediately jerk off on the phone. Take care of payment and tell her your needs first.
VIDEO INTERVIEW WITH EMPRESS WU –
VIDEO CHAT: Empress Jazmin Wu (Dominatrix / Kink Advocate) & Nicholas Tanek
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So…
What have we learned from all of this?
The women of PepLove provide a wonderful service that not only educates us but helps us embrace our kinky selves in a healthy way. It takes someone who truly loves kink to get in a caller’s mind. These women are educated, experienced, and have some of the most positive attitudes that I have experienced with sex workers in the kink community. They are not just a voice to make you cum. They are counselors of kink.
PepLove is different, because the woman you call does not simply ask what you want and then pretend to be your fantasy. They do not do 5-minute wank sessions. All the women are unique and have certain kinks and fetishes they specialize in, including things like forced feminization, male chastity, sadism, incest role play, cuckolding, and small penis humiliation. Their individual kinks and fetishes are part of who they are. You can book them for long, detailed sessions for a whole hour. We need more people like the women from PepLove in the kink community and in sex work.
My point is that these women are helping you explore and experience a kink that you may not be able to share with someone. Sure, they are professionals, but they are not just doing it for the money. They live it and they truly love the kinky lifestyle. So, get your kinky mind ready and give them a call.
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