VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Bossy with Nicholas Tanek

Mistress Bossy is a professional Dominatrix and Mommy Domme. She is a graduate of Midori’s ForteFemme intensive. We talk about being a Mommy Domme, being the Goddess of FEET, chastity, sissification, piss play, NIPPLE TORTURE, and drawing on nipples with a ballpoint pen. We also ponder about sploshing with chopsticks.

Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.

MommyDomme
Gentle FemDomme
Giggly Sensual Sadist
Midori’s ForteFemme Alumnus
Dubbed ‘GODDESS OF FEET’
Curvy
Tattooed
Redhead
Snarky
Sarcastic
Seductive
Playful
Leo/ Fire Sign 🔥
Part Jew-ess/ part Shiksa Goddess
petite Size 6 shoe

Twitter: https://twitter.com/MstrssBossy

FETLIFE: https://fetlife.com/users/9054694

IG: mstrssbossy

Midori’s ForteFemme intensive https://www.fortefemme.com/

How did you get started in the Femdom / professional Domme lifestyle and what kinks/fetishes do you enjoy?

Somewhere between 2008-2011, I started reading autobiographies of ProDommes and was incredbily inspired. I lived in the Midwest at the time, and started looking into local laws and small business loans around opening my own dungeon space in a small suburban area. I was confident I would enjoy the work and lifestyle, but unfortunately there was no obvious or accessible kink scene of note where I lived, and I had no mentors or peers to bounce ideas off of or vet clients through, so this project never came to fruition there.

Years later, I moved here to NYC and started getting more involved in the kink scene. I attended munches, FemDom workshops, & parties, and really enjoyed myself and was further motivated to explore. Soon after, I answered a posting on Fetlife from a FemDom collective looking for new members, and spent the next 5 months there skill-building, networking, learning the business, and bringing out My inner FemDom and brand. I then went independent and have since attended DomCon New Orleans and am a proud graduate of Midori’s ForteFemme intensive.

Current kinks/ fetishes that I enjoy are impact/corporal punishment (spanking, paddling, caning, flogging), sensory play, foot/leg/nylon worship, petplay, ageplay, scarf bondage, feminization, forced bi, male chastity/ key holding, CBT, bondage, tease and denial, humiliation, degradation, wax play, scent play, foodplay, aftercare, JOI, CEI, and so much more.

What advice would you give to a woman who wants to be a professional Domme?

I would advise anyone interested in becoming a ProDom[me] (or any blossoming kinkster) to first and foremost do your research, & DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS about people, groups, occupations, kinks, etc. Keep your mind objectively open and read as much verifiable non-fiction accounts/stories, learn your terminology, start online accounts like Fetlife, start joining online groups or meetups/munches, listen to others first, then ask questions, attend workshops and classes to build basic skills, check out a party or a dungeon if its in your budget, start shopping for outfits and gear in thrift stores/ pet supply stores/ hardward stores/ kitchen supply stores. If you are able to, speak to or write to Lifestylers & Pros and seek their advice, but keep in mind they may be overwhelmed with messages or might not interact with others without a tribute (gift) or other requirement. Do not get upset by this, its an old industry standard for good reason (see below). I feel that showing up to events is really key to learning/ exploring- if you don’t go out, you don’t get the full benefits offered in a face-to-face conversation that also includes body language, facial expressions, and social cues- then you miss out on a lot. Make the effort, do yourself a service.

What advice would you give to men who want to approach a Pro Domme?

I would advise any person approaching a ProDo[me] that they should again keep in mind that the Pros’ time, physical and mental energy, skill, and patience is reserved for serious and respectful people. Any potential submissive must attempt to set themselves apart from the throngs by their deeds first, not just words. Tributing/ gifting, paying application fees, or offering services helps you stand out, just make sure you read any posted rules on their accounts or sites first before reaching out or you may very well be ignored for your inability to follow instructions. Our work is as important and time-consuming as any other service, so DO NOT disrespect our time, effort, passion, or career! Just as you would feel slighted coming to you making demands for free services as your job, so will we. Basic respect and common sense are good skills to have a handle on 😉

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