#ThriftyKinkThursday: Submissive Tasks

We usually break down making something cool or creating a kinky scene for less than ten bucks on Thrifty Kink Thursday.  However, I thought it could be fun to explore the dynamics of relationships this week.  Using BDSM as bedroom sprinkles is FREE! That’s right! You DON’T have to spend money to be freaky with another person.  (Unless you are a filthy pay pig.)  

Domination and submission are common themes in a BDSM relationship.  YKF archives has some wonderful articles written by Master Bear that discuss setting up a master’s household.  The advice is absolutely great for beginners, and the love behind the writing is powerful.

Master Bear tackles tasks and the meaning behind them from a master’s perspective. For this week’s Thrifty Kink Thursday, I wanted to offer our Kinky Friends more task ideas but from a submissive’s point of view.  

Living M/s (Master/slave) 24/7 by Master Bear

In my DD/lg relationship, I have clear expectations.  Our routines took time to build and involved many conversations about what was working and what overwhelmed me.  I like to talk about tasks just before I fall asleep so then I have sweet dreams. I really like to make my Daddy Dom happy and completing a task gives me instant gratification.  

1. Household Tasks:

It may sound silly, but I love getting praise for cleaning the toilets.  It’s my most hated job around the house, but making it a task made it less annoying.  I turned it into a game.  I set a timer and then see if I can clean all the toilets in the house before it buzzes.  If I do, then I get to read my book for fifteen minutes.  My Daddy Dom always makes it a point to notice if I have completed that job, and he gives me an approval swat.  It feels good knowing that even though it’s a small, silly something, it’s appreciated.

I also enjoy getting his dry cleaning, cooking our meals, and organizing, but the toilets really resonate with me.  

2.  Grooming:

I love to tie my Daddy’s tie for him, button his sleeves, or put on his cufflinks.  He looks especially handsome in a suit and helping him get dressed makes me super happy. ( I do not touch the belt, but I love to watch him put it on…and take it off.)  He also assigns me grooming tasks like getting my toenails painted.  Knowing that it is an expectation to always have pink toes makes me actively engage in this self-care ritual.  Going to get a pedicure is a treat and because he made it a task, I don’t feel guilty about indulging.  It does make me feel 200% cuter.  Pedicures can be expensive, but nail polish is not.  You can learn to do your own toes and it still feels just as good!

3.  Creativity:

Many submissives I know have a creative side.  I don’t know if the need to submit goes hand in hand with creativity, but many artists, writers, and creators I know are submissives.  Giving in to a muse is a dance of power within one’s self, and I think that feeling of being helpless against the compulsion to create may lend itself to a D/s lifestyle.  My Dom supports my writing.  He gives me time and space to type away on the keyboard and is always available to offer advice when I need some editing.  It feels good when he reads my work.  I know some submissives write blogs, keep journals, or maintain pages on Facebook.  It’s cathartic.  Writing helps me center my thoughts and the act of creating tethers me to submission.

4.  Things:

I love to do things.  Stupid things.  Things that normal people would not do like tap dance at the grocery store and kiss all the melons.  It makes me giddy to dip my toes into the weird.  My Dom likes to tell me to do things that make me laugh. For example, I have given a blow job while I hum the theme to Indiana Jones, taken a dozen lashes with a jingly cat toy, gone to work with “Whore” written on my belly, humped a stuffed dolphin while singing “Tainted Love” and licked my own toes.  Sometimes he will text me a goofy task and it makes me smile all day long.  I feel accomplished when I have completed his request.  Do things.  Don’t be afraid to be a little silly for your Dom.

Tasks are a super fun and THRIFTY way to spice up your BDSM dynamic, and they do not have to be sexual to deepen the relationship.  I do like to masturbate and think about my Dom’s cuff links, but D/s life does not need to be all sex all the time.  Finding something that feels good is a great way to connect and with connection, the sexy-sex times just get better.  Bow chicka wow wow.