About us

Nicholas Tanek is an American author, ghostwriter, speaker, and podcaster from New Brunswick, New Jersey. He graduated from Rutgers University with a bachelor’s degree in English. Growing up as a punk rock skater kid, Tanek became immersed in the early 1990s New York City rave scene, which led to struggles with drug addiction. He later overcame these challenges, finding inspiration after reuniting with Lynn, the love of his life, who passed away at 37. Her death prompted him to channel his grief into creativity, resulting in his memoir, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself, a raw depiction of his experiences with addiction, depression, and the punk rock and BDSM subcultures of the 1990s. The book is noted for its honesty about unconventional sexuality and personal struggles.

Tanek has also written Chipped Black Nail Polish, a novella about a punk rock romance in 1989 New Jersey, and Your Kinky Friends, a non-fiction work exploring alternative lifestyles. He hosts a podcast, Your Kinky Friends, where he interviews individuals involved in BDSM and kink communities, reflecting his involvement in the New Jersey and New York fetish scene. As a speaker, he discusses topics like mental health, addiction recovery, and alternative lifestyles. His work often blends themes of music, kinky sex, and drugs, drawing from his colorful life experiences