by Tangled Blue
My dear Kinky Friend, Moonflower, recommend that I read Mating in Captivity by Ester Perel. I recently finished it, and the book was as a great reminder that intimacy does not necessarily equate to a fantastic sex life. Sex in a long term relationship is not a given, and the author details how love and desire can impact bedroom excitement. Desire is that thrumming in your giggle-bits when you are sitting in traffic and your lover comes to mind. Desire burns hot at the beginning of a relationship and draws people together. Love is a little different. It’s a constant comfort and easily taken for granted. It’s the sure thing that will not waver through stomach bugs and mortgages. Love is grand, but it can dull desire with the monotony of comfort and security. Perel explores finding balance between love and desire through case studies and thought provoking insight. The book great for those of us who need to keep passion flowing in a long term relationship.