Mental Bondage by Forneycation

Its no secret that the BDSM world is full of wonderful toys meant to take you to the edge of ecstasy or agony, beautiful adornments for the body, and furniture to act as a stage for your kinky scene. I love it all. I love my floggers, my collars, my corsets, and my violet wand. I even find myself gazing at things I don’t think I’d ever want to try because its all so fascinating! Despite my enthusiasm, I know that my kink goes a little deeper. With me, it all starts in the brain. I’ve had brutal scenes where many toys were used, but I didn’t feel submissive. This is important to me. Contrary wise, I’ve had scenes where no toys were used, but I was so deep into subspace I was almost in tears. I won’t be able to cover everything as there is no end to what you can do, but I hope what I can cover will spark your kinky imagination.  A mental tool I love so much is obedience training.

This spans various kinks within BDSM and can be done various ways. The most popular being position training. There are Gorean slave positions, but there are others you can find on the web. You can even create your own! Each pose serves its own purpose from being in proper position to have one’s hands bound, bowing to the dominant, or resting. Normally, the submissive’s body is positioned in a way that is pleasing to the dominant eye and keeps at least some part of the submissive available for use or service. Just be sure that you keep in mind the health of your submissive. If they have problems with their back, knees, or other injuries, some positions may not be suitable or may require the use of cushions. You should also keep track of how long they have been in that position and make sure they are not feeling pain or numbness from holding the position.

One thing to think about is the language you use when using these positions. If you use common language (either English or traditional Gorean terms), the submissive can practice by themselves or may already know that command without the dominant teaching it to them. Another idea is to use one or many foreign languages to order the sub into position. Just be sure the dom keeps track of the orders! If a dom suddenly barks the word “nieder” (the German word for down) at their sub, you’ll likely find the sub is confused and staring blankly at them. This gives a good opportunity for showing the sub exactly what the command means by physically putting them into the desired position. Once the sub has hit the proper position, reward them! Anything will do, but keeping in the spirit of this article, I recommend touch such as light petting or scratching in areas they like, or even just a simple verbal reward. I’ve never met a sub who didn’t swoon at being called a good boy/girl/slut,etc. One way is not better than any other way, just make sure everyone is comfortable.

I’m a great lover of pet play. I have been a pet in a few relationships, but I also think a lot of the elements are useful to many kinky walks of life. I love the usage of height and posture differences between the dom and sub to promote the dynamic. It is not uncommon for pets to be on the floor whether it be to eat or snuggle at their dom’s feet (no subs allowed on the furniture!). These things really make me feel submissive because I have to literally look up to my dom and I feel sub human being literally beneath them. Of course I can’t stress enough that safety comes first! Please keep the sub’s body in mind and make sure that their back, joints, etc aren’t in pain from any play you’re doing.

I hope you found this article stimulating and are ready to get down and play in a cost- free way! No need to wait on (hopefully) discreetly packaged boxes to arrive at your doorstep. Your imagination is the biggest sex shop there is. Get creative. Get kinky. Have fun and most of all be safe!

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