By Nicholas Tanek
Shame and secrecy have plagued some of my vanilla relationships, but those days are over. These days, I am kinky and proud. Still, there was a time in my life where I had all of these fantasies and desires I was afraid to express because of my vanilla partner.
Lynn was the love of my life and she died in 2012. When we were totally honest about our kinks, without shame, our lives changed for the better.
I knew I was not alone, so I asked some of my kinky friends about coming out as a kinky person. I asked them three questions. Here are their answers.
