I AM SUSAN BEARLUCCI!!!!
I ran in the Bear Competition organized by The Albuquerque Leather Daddies. I came in Runner-Up Bear 2019!! I am so joyous over that!!! I am still flying HIGH!!!
Continue reading Competing in the Bear Competition by Master Bear
Before the car accident I used to teach a lot more. I had come up with a “Find your Inner Dominant Class.” Since the folks who came were all brand new, I started off with a generalized explanation of BDSM. I’ve worked on this for a while and I have found it be relatable for somebody who has no idea what I’m talking about.
This is how I break it down.
Continue reading Breaking Down BDSM for Newbies by Master Bear
It is not uncommon for people coming into BDSM to use caricatures as a model on how to act until they figure themselves out. These caricatures are sometimes based on our limited books/movies and extensive porn. Other times they are based on a preconceived notion of how someone with “that identity” would act. In the beginning of finding your identity having a caricature can be empowering. It can give you an idea into who you want to be. I remember my caricature as a new Dominant. The caricature I assumed was quiet, calm, and hyper vigilant. It took so much energy that I couldn’t sustain it outside of the public BDSM space, but that is when I felt I needed it.
Anticipatory Service by Master Bear
As far as I am concerned, anticipatory service is the highest level of service achievable. It makes my life easier and speaks directly to my sense of Mastery. This type of service is given before asked and many times before I know what I need or want. For others anticipatory service is considered disobedience. Those Masters believe that if they did not request something then the slave should not assume it. In the assumption, the slaves think for themselves and this is not allowed.
There are many things that separate Masters from each other and philosophies on punishment is one of the biggest. The social expectation is that Masters are emotionally removed and deliver harsh physical punishment at the drop of the hat. The worse the punishment the more “Masterly” the Master is considered. On the other side a slave that receives this type of punishment is supposed to glow and excel in its presence.
I suppose that works for some people. It however, does not work for me.
Over the last 17 years, I have developed a few rules about punishment:
Let us look at each one.
Living M/s 24/7 by Master Bear
The Rule of Three: Part Two
Starting with the Rule of Three is an easy way to begin putting your household together as a Master. However, it is only the beginning. Each component that you pick for your “Rule of Three” has four pieces to it that fine-tune what it is that you are looking for.
I know that this is a lot of thinking, processing, talking, and experimenting. It is NOT at ALL like the porn or the hot books that you have read. However, what this does is set both you and your slave up for long-term success. Anything can be done for a short period when you are both hot and bothered. However, what is attainable for the next 7 months? Next eight years? How you emotionally communicate will determine how successful your relationship is. In addition, these four legs of each requirement will help you have those conversations about expectations, wants, and needs.
