I talked to some more of my Professional Dominatrix friends and asked them a couple of questions. Here are their answers.

Wikipedia: A dominatrix (/dɒmɪˈneɪtrɪks/), plural dominatrixes or dominatrices (/dɒmɪnəˈtraɪsiːs/), is a woman who takes the dominant role in BDSM activities. A dominatrix might be of any sexual orientation, but her orientation does not necessarily limit the genders of her submissive partners. The role of a dominatrix may not even involve physical pain toward the submissive; her domination can be verbal, involving humiliating tasks, or servitude. A dominatrix is typically a paid professional (“pro-domme”) as the term “dominatrix” is little-used within the non-professional BDSM scene.

Domme Karin von Kroft

 

Mistress Karin von Kroft has years of experience in providing FemDom sessions. She is available in her fully equipped dungeon in Tucson, Arizona. She offers strict and sensual domination. She is also a published author.

She has been running her website for several years. She has thousands of pictures and hundreds of movies available.

Website: www.DomKarin.com

Instagram: @dom_karin

Twitter: @MistressKarin

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“Secret Fantasies of Submissive men” book available on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01H2EKGGE

Talk to her on NiteFlirt https://www.niteflirt.com/DomKarin

 

How did you get started in the Femdom/professional Domme lifestyle and what kinks/fetishes do you enjoy?

I got started when I was only 21. I met a woman who was a dominatrix. I got very curious about all hidden, kinky activities. She would take me on some of her sessions which I truly enjoyed. I got a quick introduction to everything she did and it all felt very natural to me. Afterwards, I started doing sessions by myself. I met people that would enrich my experiences. My attitude was always, “Let me try it once and see how I like it.” I enjoy the excitement, meeting people and letting them experience kinky fantasies of FemDom.

What advice would you give to a woman who wants to be a professional Domme?

It is important to understand the psychology of submissive and dominant relation. Not every submissive is the same. I always listen how subs want to submit to me. Then, I decide if that would please me. The feelings need to have mutual enjoyment. Pain is enjoyable if it is given in a right way. Pleasure is enjoyable if it works for both sides. What is pleasure for one person, may not be for the other.

What advice would you give to men who want to approach a Pro Domme?

Every Mistress has a different approach for setting up sessions so just ask before assuming things. There should be information on her website of what needs to be done. Appreciate her time and be brief but efficient with information you submit.

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Goddess Reba

Born and raised in the American Midwest, with a deep fondness for British comedy, Goddess Reba is a no-nonsense lifestyle Dominatrix that values open communication and trust in BDSM relationships.

Twitter: https://twitter.com/GoddessRebaXxx

Goddess Reba on Peplove: http://www.peplove.com/ladies/goddess-reba

How did you get started in the Femdom/professional Domme lifestyle and what kinks/fetishes do you enjoy?

I got started in BDSM, in general, and FemDom specifically back in 1998. I tried being a submissive when I first started my explorations, but quickly discovered that I’m not good at taking orders. I was lucky enough to have been befriended by a retired Pro Domme, who took me under her wing and mentored me for a couple of years.

The kinks/fetishes I enjoy are varied, they include (but are not limited to) incest role play, small penis humiliation, ass worship, pegging, CBT and toilet games. Probably, my two favorite kinks are ass worship and CBT. I do tend to have a bit of a sadistic streak.

What advice would you give to a woman who wants to be a professional Domme?

My advice to women who want to get into this profession is this: First, be ready and willing to learn new things, always. Get a good grounding in what BDSM really is, how it differs from abuse, learn a bit about psychology and anatomy, and become familiar with the legal codes in your area. This may sound daunting, but it will make you a better, more well-rounded and versatile Dominatrix in the end. I would also suggest a class or two in self-defense, as not all so-called “subs” are harmless little perverts.

What advice would you give to men who want to approach a Pro Domme?

What advice would I give men? Learn how to communicate your wants/desires in an honest and respectful way. This attitude can be applied to all areas of life, not just in the kink/fetish community. Personally, I am much more likely to respond positively to a politely worded request than I am to a rude comment about various parts of my anatomy. “Wow, you’ve got big boobs” is NOT the correct way to start a conversation with a Pro Domme or anyone for that matter. In a nutshell, just be open, honest, and mind your manners. You’ll get a lot closer to fulfilling your fantasies with the right, respectful attitude.

 

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Mistress Skye Marlowe

Mistress Marlowe is a published model, make-up artist, muse, and Pro Domme who is in Washington D.C.

http://modelmayhem.com/SkyeMarlowe

http://modelmayhem.com/SkyeMarlowe

http://warfare01.com/missmarlowe

Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarloweSkye?lang=en

How did you get started in the Femdom/professional Domme lifestyle and what kinks/fetishes do you enjoy?

So, I really did answer an ad. I was so drawn in by the Mistress and how amazing, kind, well-spoken, and in control she was. When I discovered it was more than just foot modeling, I did it.

What advice would you give to a woman who wants to be a professional Domme?

Wow! Know who you are as a person. Tap into your inner strength and nurturing. Learn to be assertive and go back and think again about doing this. This is a huge responsibility, physical and mental, not just for you but for your submissives and slaves. Understand that your clients have lives and feelings, insecurities, and strengths. Not respecting the reason men and women see a Domme is not understanding the mindset.

What advice would you give to men who want to approach a Pro Domme?

Don’t be a flake. Don’t ask me to let you do a, b, c to me. Eww…no. Bring a tribute and a gift. That’s right. The tribute and the gift are important. Be honest if you aren’t sure. Be direct about why you are contacting us if you know your kink and needs. Read! Read! Read profiles if they are there. My regular sub gets my attention throughout the week if needed because he understands what I like. He never ceases to amaze me with the gifts he brings, that I don’t ask for. I don’t have a published wish list for a reason, I need you to be engaged and listen for us to have a good experience or client relationship.

WATCH a video of Mistress Skye Marlowe being interviewed by Nicholas Tanek of YourKinkyFriends.com

 

So… What have we learned from all of this?

A Dominatrix will heal you while hurting or controlling you. That’s the key. These professional Dommes are helping people. Dear reader, I’m a fuck up. I’ll admit it. I’m a man who had been struggling with internal demons, the pain of loss, drug problems, financial issues, and life in general. Dominant women were the people who saved me. It was not just my personal Domme, but the Dommes in the kink community who I am friends with who proved to me that a person can be submissive and take control of their own life and be who they want to be. Whether they must pay for it or not, sometimes men need a woman to say, “Shut the fuck up and do what I say.” It will make all the difference.

 

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