Thrifty Kinksters. Ten Dollars. Super Fun.
by Tangled Blue
BDSM calls to many people but willing kinksters can be inhibited by the cost of the tools. Leather floggers, ball gags, and latex wear can really break the bank. Our Kinky Friends decided to challenge ourselves to create experiences that cost less than ten bucks. We will use traditional BSDM ideas and use our imaginations and ingenuity to help you get the most bang for your buck. This is our first entry for our Thrifty Kink series: Bondage on a Budget.
Price Limit: $10.00
Type of Scene: Bondage/Discipline
Key Words: Rope, pain, obedience
|Cotton clothesline (Dollar Store)||3.85|
|Thigh highs (Amazon)||4.99|
|Clothespins (Dollar Store)||1.00|
|Paint stirrer stick (Hardware Store)||free|
This is a classic Bondage and Discipline scene that is perfect for beginner exploration. I follow Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) principles. It’s always good to plan for emergencies before you play. Keep a pair of scissors, your cell phone, a first aid kit and aftercare items close to you while playing. Be safe by being prepared!
A few days before play-
Tell your sub to dress sexy for you on your play day. Anticipation can be built if you give your sub the thigh high stockings as a present days before your scene. You could send a package with the stockings and clothespins to your sub at work or find another way surprise him or her.
Kitten Tip: Stockings can be cheap. I usually order a four pack from Amazon and they end up being around two dollars a pair. I really like the ones that have the built in garters and belt. I also stock up on stockings at discount stores on Halloween. I love wearing them them under my clothes to feel sexy on rainy days and Mondays.
Talk to your sub about the scene. Agree on a safe word if you are using one and discuss hard and soft limits. Talking about the scene heightens arousal and can be almost as fun as actual play. Send memes to each other to build desire.
Practice knots on your own body parts or a rolled up shirt. You don’t need elaborate knots for basic bondage. There are tons of free YouTube videos on how to tie fancier shibari knots.
Day of play:
Set the scene by providing a tidy, safe location and turn on some sexy music. (Check out the playlist on the Your Kinky Friends Discord chat for suggestions or play what you enjoy.)
You will need a chair of some kind. Kitchen chairs work best because they have slats on the back, but make sure that it is sturdy. I was tied to a chair once that had a wobbly leg, and I ended up tipping over from impact. It was not a good kind of pain that my face experienced.
Place the chair next to a wall in the room.
Cut the cotton clothesline into four lengths and lay them out next to a neat line of clothes pins. Take the remainder of the clothesline and loop it together in a bundle to make a little flogger.
Lay out your paint stirrer stick. I like my sticks labeled. You can write “Dirty Little Slut” or “Owie Maker” on your stick for added fun.
Your scene is set. Have your sub arrive while you are sitting in the chair by the wall. Demand that they dance for you and take off all their clothes except the stockings.
Stop the music and have your sub face the wall for inspection. Run your fingertip or lips over the newly exposed skin and whisper approval.
Lead them to the chair and have them kneel and face the wall. Tie each thigh and ankle to the chair with the rope. This will keep them in position for spanking and prevent kicks.
Start with your hand. Strike hard and watch and listen for reaction. Try to build up to ten swats on each cheek. Their ass should be faintly red and tender.
Turn the chair around to offer a kiss and then use the clothespins to add pain to their nipples. Start with two and add more depending on your sub’s reaction. These hurt. I recommend a Dom trying them on himself before using them on a sub. Spank ten more times.
Give relief. Remove the clips and rub their sore nipples.
Present the paint stirrer stick and offer a few playful swats. These can bruise and it’s a stingy pain. Watch your sub for tolerance levels. Swat and have your sub count to ten between each blow. This helps them breathe and focus. It also keeps you in communication with your sub. Try the clothesline flogger. It’s a very different feeling from the paint stirrer stick. See which creates the most reaction in your sub. Alternate tools and check your sub frequently. Spank until you are both happy or your sub is crying and then let the evening unfold from that point.
Your sub may need aftercare. I like Arnica gel on my butt after a good spanking but ice and a good massage are always great soothers. Sucking is a natural soother and I find that sucking my Dom’s thumb really helps recenter my body.
I hope you have lots of kinky fun and stay thrifty!! Share a picture of your paint stirrer spanking stick! I would love to see them!