I love Halloween. The atmosphere of delightfully creepy things is the perfect backdrop for wicked fun. Now, people are allowed to dress up any time of year. If I want to dress as Batman on the fourth of July, I will put on a mask and run around my house saving the houseplants. I may want to be a sissy maid on a Tuesday night so I put on my French maid outfit and let my Domme fuck me with a strap-on dildo. I can do this any day of the year, but the Halloween season makes dressing up magical.
It feels so good to put on a costume and be someone different for a little while. Adults have the option to add the spin of sex appeal to their tricks and treats. Normally shy people may be strutting around in corsets and thongs and the energy is infectious. The classic sexy costumes like French maid, sexy nurse, or Morticia from The Addams Family are always a welcome sight, but the creative aspect of Halloween makes it extra exciting. I never know what sexed up concoction I will see at a dungeon party, Wal-Mart, or tagging along for trick or treating. I may see John Snow from Game of Thrones looking hot in a pair of fishnets with a little cleavage showing or Bert and Ernie in ball gags and leather. Adults are sexual beings and Halloween is the perfect holiday to let sexual creativity come out to play.
The sexuality of Halloween costumes has always intrigued me. So, I asked my kinky friends about how outfits affect and change their sex lives.
Luna Darke
Luna Darke is an exquisite and beguiling sexual submissive. She is a delightful friend of mine who I have known for years.
What’s the sexiest thing you ever did in a Halloween costume?
Just about 2 years ago, a dear friend decided that she wanted to bring another woman in to help dominate her submissive. I was so very touched that she would ask me, especially since I am a submissive. I love them both because they’re my kinky family. So, I agreed. The theme of the night was “French Maid” as that was so arousing for him. He was quite nervous until the blindfold came off and he saw it was me! Then, he saw my paddle and was nervous again. Rightfully so; I learned that evening that I do have a little bit of a dominant (and sadistic) side!
How do you feel when you are wearing a costume? Do you behave differently?
It’s very much the same as wearing lingerie. We don’t just wear for you. We wear it because it makes us feel good and sexy. Sometimes there’s roleplay involved, like the naughty school girl or the pussycat. My pussycat costume is really fun because it has bells. Me-wow!
What are some costumes that are not stereotypically sexy that you find arousing?
Any costume can be sexy or provocative with the right ambiance. You can throw on a pair of horns and create a mood. Or you can put on a fun costume. It doesn’t have to be a skimpy little sash. It doesn’t even need to be Halloween. Let it be just for fun! Also, intimacy should always have an element of fun.
Video interview with Luna Darke:
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TheLadyAscends
TheLadyAscends is a professional artist and Pagan love witch who is also a good friend of mine. For years, she has embraced her sexuality in delightfully quirky ways. She has multiple submissive slaves. She also has staged Pagan sacrifices and fake blood orgies.
What’s the sexiest thing you ever did in a Halloween costume?
I went to a masked party where the theme was that you didn’t know who you were fucking. The delight of the possibilities was intoxicating.
How do you feel when you are wearing a costume? Do you behave differently?
Yes! I love that I can be anyone. I have costumes that have personalities. Marlena is my black bob and slinky gown. I especially love my wigs. It lets me explore different identities and sides to myself. In a costume, I can be anyone and do anything. But as Kurt Vonnegut said, “Be careful who you pretend to be.”
What are some costumes that are not stereotypically sexy that you find arousing?
That is a tough one. I love a man in awkward drag. I find something sexy about the crossed gender roles and vulnerability. Also, Rainbow Brite! I can’t explain that one. I think this year I will get a male sub to dress like a sexy Rainbow Brite. Live the dream!
Video interview with The Lady Ascends
MushMush
MushMush is a wonderful young woman who likes to explore her kinky sexuality. One thing led to another and impact play became part of her repertoire. She likes giving and receiving pain.
What’s the sexiest thing you ever did in a Halloween costume?
I’ve done some fairly tame role playing with one of my exes while I was wearing a sexy police officer costume. It was a very short dress with a zipper the whole way down the front for easy access. I tied him up with some rope and fucked him hard, reverse cowgirl style.
How do you feel when you are wearing a costume? Do you behave differently?
I feel more confident and sexy when I wear costumes. It lets me channel a different persona and I behave differently than I normally would. I’m more cocky and sure of my actions. This usually translates to more creative and explorative sex.
What are some costumes that are not stereotypically sexy that you find arousing?
I find nuns habits to be pretty sexy. Something about my Catholic upbringing, I think.
Young Scratch
YoungScratch is a switch who loves power exchange. Actually, he likes all types of BDSM. These days, he has become much more open to expressing himself in kink.
What’s the sexiest thing you ever did in a Halloween costume?
I think the sexiest thing I ever did was a sexy picture contest. I bought a panda mask for Halloween. A sexy pal of mine had the same mask. The only natural thing to do was to have a sexy face off. For an evening, my lovely opponent and I posted sexy panda-costumed pictures for us and our friends to judge and enjoy. Even a short time ago, I would have never had the confidence to do that. Seeing everyone’s responses made me feel so sexy and it was one of the most fun things I had done in a long time.
How do you feel when you are wearing a costume? Do you behave differently?
I feel much more free. I’m not wearing my face, so I feel less anxious about the consequences. While I may have more regrets from times I’ve been wearing a costume, I also have had more nights I won’t forget.
What are some costumes that are not stereotypically sexy that you find arousing?
The one kind of costume that always gets me is battle armor. This is more common in cosplay than Halloween, but I love when I see someone in full shining plate armor or worn sci-fi power armor. Maybe it’s the power or the fantasy of the chivalrous knight, but I find those costumes extremely sexy.
Video interview with Young Scratch
Tangled Blue
Tangled Blue is a kitten. She is in a DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl) dynamic with her husband. She is a good friend. She is funny, weird, absurd, and also very sexy.
What’s the sexiest thing you ever did in a Halloween costume?
My best friend and I loved to dress up in college and trick or treat at our favorite frat house. During our junior year, she went as a jungle vine and I was her monkey. Our costumes were essentially leotards, thigh high stockings, heels, and random bits of felt glued on as leaves and a monkey tail. The boys filled our pillowcases with beer and cigarettes, although neither of us drank or smoke. We paid them with kisses and swats on the ass as we made our way down the halls.
How do you feel when you are wearing a costume? Do you behave differently?
I feel extra giggly when I am in a costume and I am far bolder than I normally would be in a public setting. My costumes are usually more funny than sexy and I go for homemade looks whenever I have the time. I love to wear masks, capes, and stockings to role play at parties. This year, I am dressing as Super Glue for trick or treating. It’s some superhero I made up. I’ll be a superhero with stuff stuck to me. I’m thinking a leotard, red skirt, blue tights, cape and a whole mess of stuff glued to me. Maybe, I’ll wear a crown. I have an adult party to go to as well and I’m dressing as a Kitty Litter Maid. I am a kitten for life. When I don my ears and put in my tail, I’m down for a crazy good time. Kittens are the most fun.
What are some costumes that are not stereotypically sexy that you find arousing?
I love it when a man has a homemade costume. You can tell that he put effort into it and truly embodies the spirit of play and fun. A sheet with holes cut into it to be a ghost would be super sexy because there would be instant privacy for sneaky blow jobs. I’m also a fan of the classic suit and tie. Just throw on a button down shirt, grab a tie, and call yourself a Director of Love. You can make a name tag. It’s so flipping hot. Batman! One can never go wrong dressing as Batman. The belt is a must. I love the sound of leather on skin…mmm……
Sassywitch666
Sassywitch666 is a wife in a D/s relationship with her husband. Although they have been married twenty years, they only got into kink several years ago.
What’s the sexiest thing you ever did in a Halloween costume?
I dressed like a rock singer. I sang and did a strip tease for my best friend, a friend with benefits. Then, I gave him a lap dance before he tied me up and we had sex.
How do you feel when you are wearing a costume? Do you behave differently?
I feel sexy dressing up and I like to get into character. So, I definitely behave differently.
What are some costumes that are not stereotypically sexy that you find arousing?
That’s difficult for me as I find the person to be sexy depending on how they act. I could be totally aroused by an elf fairy, an absolute turn. A biker babe can be a turn off depending on the person’s attitude. One year, I did have some kinky fun with an Imp. Another year, I was with a Grim Reaper.
And now for my answers…
Nicholas Tanek
What’s the sexiest thing you ever did in a Halloween costume?
I went to a party as Gomez Addams from the Addams family. I was in my early 20’s and going to Rutgers University in New Brunswick, NJ. I had the slicked-back hair and the striped suit. I never put so much effort into a costume before. I even grew a pencil mustache. I wish I had pictures. I met this woman who was dressed up like Magenta from The Rocky Horror Picture Show. Now, I have a thing for women in French maid outfits and Magenta is one of my favorite characters. We both stayed in character the whole night and we did this roleplay thing where I was cheating on my Morticia with someone else’s maid. In the Addams Family universe, I know that Gomez Adams would never cheat on Morticia. Like Morticia and Gomez, Magenta and I flirted hardcore all night and could not keep our hands off of each other. I never got her real name. We even spoke in those accents all night. We were very high and drunk and I went down on her while she lay on the hood of my car that was parked in the street. The cops came and did that “Whoop! Whoop!” thing with their siren. We ran away. They didn’t follow us. I’m glad we did not get arrested.
How do you feel when you are wearing a costume? Do you behave differently?
For me, there is something about adopting another persona that gives me this unique kind of energy. I do not dress up for Halloween often, but I do love costumes. Sometimes, my Domme has put me in a French maid outfit with garters, stockings, and heels. She showed me off at dungeon during the reading party for my book Your Kinky Friends at Rancor Studios. I did not act feminine in any way. I acted like a submissive male who was being humiliated, serving a Dominatrix. There is something about the fantasy of the fabric. The clothes and the sexual energy mentally change things. It adds a kinky energy to the room.
What are some costumes that are not stereotypically sexy that you find arousing?
I never thought I would get turned on by nuns. I was forced to go to CCD and church. I hated it. All the nuns were mean and kind of ugly. Throughout my childhood, my Catholic guilt always crept up on me. Anything sacrilegious used to terrify me. Then, I lost faith at a very young age. Once I got into kink and looked at tons of porn, I started to appreciate the sexy latex dominatrix nun thing. It feels kind of evil. That’s a turn on. Now, I have daydreams of a woman in a latex nun outfit stroking my cock and making me cum while spanking me because I’ve been bad.
So…
what have we learned from all of this?
Halloween is fun and it gives adults an excuse to be kinky. Halloween is a beautiful and weird holiday for everyone. As someone who is a switch, a well-made French maid outfit can turn me into a submissive who wants to do nothing but lick pussy. On the flip side, a Gomez Addams outfit could make me feel dominant. It would also make me want to do nothing but lick pussy. In either case, it’s a win-win for the clitoris. My point is that sexual expression using Halloween as an excuse is a positive thing. It does not matter if it’s Halloween. Have some fun and put on a costume. Be a villain. Be a hero. It doesn’t matter. It is all make believe anyway. The most important thing is that you have fun and find something sexually gratifying. You may find something about yourself that you will want to explore. That sexual expression just may change your life for the better.
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