Slave Karissa Interviews Mistress Faith Williams.
INTERVIEW:
Before we get started, tell us a little bit about yourself.
Well, I’m a 40-year-old natural red-head. I live in the Chicago area and have all my life. I’m considered a successful engineer, but being a Civil Engineer made the big bucks. I am now at a place in my life where I am considered semi-retired, but I don’t think I could ever not work at something. I own a couple of homes within the Chicago area and one home out of the country. So that’s the Vanilla side of life.
When was your first time “out” as a kinky person? Like you knew you were kinky and proud of it.
Hmmm, well I imagine I had to say once in college. So 19ish. But I would say that being proud of it and open about it was 22 or 23, but I had gone through some evolutionary things or processes. It was about then I was being recognized as a Domme within the group of Doms and Dommes within the local scene. So at that point, you could say, was the being openly proud about being kinky and within the kink community.
Every domme has specialties. Some are sensual and some are sadistic and then it breaks down into all kinds of play. What are your specialties?
My specialties are providing the ‘client’ and or ‘sub’ what they desire. If they want discipline only, then I can provide it. If they want something that moves towards the sensual side of things, I can do that as well. It is easier for me if there is a bit of a connection between myself and the other party. If the party wants the full-on scenic event, with time I can provide it. I can wear the whole cat outfit and carry the whip and etc or I can wear a sexy set of workout clothes and do the same thing. I guess my overall specialty is providing what is desired.
Every person has their kinks but they also have limits. Subs certainly have limits but so do dommes. What are your limits?
Poop. I don’t deal with scat. Now that is different than enemas and I’m not really into that either however there has been a rise of interest in having this included. So, I’m learning the dos and don’ts of the enema scene. Also, don’t come in and ask me to use my single tail only. First, only the most die-hard subs ask for me to use my whip and I train with it all the time. I have a four-foot leather single tail and I’m good with it. I can hit what I aim at and I don’t break the skin. Oh yeah, I don’t do blood play either, but I have obtained a lovely carriage whip with is a three-foot rod with a two-foot leather whip. So much fun and easy to direct and strike those lovely areas.
Did you start as submissive or did you go straight into dominance?
Okay, I was 18 and stupid and got caught up in a hugely bad relationship in which I was made a sub and my Master had no fucking idea and really used me poorly and abused me regularly and for being as smart as I like to think I am, that was my stupid period. I got rescued and got hooked up with a proper Dom who figured out I was more on the dominant side of life and so he trained me to become a Domme, but I did go through the whole training thing taking over a year, every weekend. So I know what I hated and try to not do that to others.
How does being deaf or does being deaf affect you being a domme at all?
It has never hindered me. My subs always speak directly to me but don’t look me in the eye. I have them look at my chin. Plus I have some hearing through science but there are things that I just can’t translate electronically fast enough. What was interesting when I had one girl that was blind. She’s blind and I don’t hear well. What a combination, but we made it work and that was most enjoyable for me and she is still one of my closest friends after the fact.
Do you use safe words when you play? What are your safe words?
Of course, we use safe words. You have to have an emergency exit for a scene and if gagged we use a large coin to be dropped to stop things and yes, sometimes it gets dropped accidentally, so you lean close and ask if they need to stop and move on from there. Oh, me, I don’t choose the safe word. Always the sub and or client gives me their safe word or safe motion.
Do you provide aftercare after you play with someone?
Of course, you have to have a cool-down period. There is a place to rest and recover. I even provide a soothing cream to help with the sting. Now the amount of aftercare also depends on the amount of connection I have with the sub vs a client.
I love role-playing usually I’ll do mommy/daughter, big sister/little sister, teacher/student. Do you like to role-play? What is your favorite kind of role play?
I will role play at times. But that really isn’t my bag. Sometimes I get lured into a role play and then I feel like an idiot when I realize that I’ve been taken for a ride…LOL…
Is chastity something that you do?
I have certainly used chastity devices in the past. Mostly use a good harness not only to prevent attention to the private regions but also to secure devices or plugs in place. I’ve never used an actual chastity belt. Maybe I should invest in one.
Is CBT something that you do?
I have use some CBT in the past but since I usually deal with females there isn’t much of a need. Now if a client wishes this, yes I can provide a CBT of some type or other.
Is sissification something that you
Again this is more of a male-desired issue and since I usually deal with females I don’t do a butchification of females…lol…
Let’s talk about sadism. What is the most sadistic thing you’ve done?
Well, I’ve built several devices to help. I use a St Andrew’s Cross, I have a high-grade sawhorse. I have several stockades and tons of anchor points on walls, ceilings, floors also exam tables and chairs. So there are many opportunities for things to happen. One of the most satisfying evenings with a very willful young lady who had a mouth. She was a suggested client and I was told to show her what a real bitch was like. Well, color me happy. We sat down and discussed what she wanted and I told her what her sponsor desired. So we agreed. She chose her safe word and we began. So there was the warm-up period and then we got into the meat of the evening and her mouth just wouldn’t shut up and we finally got to the point where I was going to shut her up. She ended up inverted on my St Andrews Cross. Her breasts clamped and weighted down. She could take the penetration abuse but the candle wax she wasn’t expecting. I began dripping down her stomach and breasts and her inner thighs and ass and vagina. She got quiet and after a bit more the safe word came out.
Let’s talk about impact play. There are whips, floggers, canes, riding crops. They are all great. If you had to choose, what one is your favorite? Why?
Well, you named them all. Each has the desired effect. I use mostly, in this order, crops, flogger, cane, whip. The crop is perfect for exact strikes. The flogger is great for spread out stings and welts. The cane is for pain and deep welts. Yes I know it doesn’t have to be but that is how I choose to use it. The whip is serious shit and only the most hardcore get this.
As opposed to other kinks, foot worship or a foot fetish seems to be the most mainstream. Why do you think that is?
I really don’t have an opinion on this subject. Something for everyone.
A lot of people are ashamed of certain kinks they have (me included). They can’t share with anyone due to fear of judgment or something. What advice would you give to those people?
Be yourself. If your kink satisfies your self-concept then embrace it. Don’t give a shit about what others think, because everyone will have some idiot that thinks you’re weird and others that will embrace you.
You’re in Chicago. How would you describe the kink scene in Chicago?
Not as active with the covid. But there are a lot of places that you can enjoy the company of like-minded people and there are a few private membership clubs as well. So yes it seems strong if you know how to find it. Some are more accessible than others. Privacy is a must.
What are your most common requests?
Being secured, gagged and some form of ass play. Be that paddling or impact play. As well as penetration play.
We’re going to bring it up but let’s bring it down for a minute. In general, how are you dealing with the pandemic going on in the world right now?
Staying home and being annoyed, because I am a high-risk individual and I am pretty fierce when people don’t wear their masks around me. I do have a friend that is currently riding this out with me and living in my home. So at least I have company.
Are you in a personal relationship right now?
No. I truly believe that I will never be in a long-lasting relationship. Just because I am who I am and I think I have proven this with a couple of failed relationships..lol
How do you prefer to be addressed by your subs and how do you address them?
Miss or Mistress. If I actually like my subs I’ll call them dear or darling. If I don’t like them..bitch or cunt…unless they specifically want to be demeaned.
The kink rabbit hole goes deep. There are things I am into that I never thought I’d be into. What are some things you are just interested in or would like to try that you haven’t yet?
I have given this some rather lengthy thought. There are some really dark places in my mind and so I think I need to pass on this question. Some things that even I might say “ewwwww”
What are some ways people can be kinky without spending a ton of money?
There are a ton of household items that can be used if the kink is minor pain or penetration or discomfort. Imagination is key here.
Speaking of money, you don’t charge people to play with you but you accept gifts. Why don’t you charge people?
I would hate to have to fill out 1099 on that as an independent contractor. I have enough to do getting my taxes figured out as it is.
What made you decide this was for you?
The whole erotic pleasure I receive from doing this. The several like-minded individuals who return over and over to have a weekend of being my submissive, even ones from years past who have moved on and have families now and the like.
What are your basic philosophies with regard to D/s?
The submissive controls the scenes. I as the dominant must see if the limits the submissive sets are actually her or his true limits. There must be a push for more. Out of scene the submissive must prove their worth as a person. Hence the chores and the lack of clothing, the humbling and the humiliation. The breaking and then the rebuilding.
What are your rules, contracts, agreements, etc.? What do you require of your slave and of yourself?
I’m not going to go over all of this. You don’t follow your directions or break the agreements you leave and are never allowed back. Even if I like you. I require the best from myself as well as my submissive…I never use the term slave.
What sort of structured training do you prefer to use? What sorts of discipline/punishment for infractions? What kinds of tasks do you assign your slave to perform for you?
Basic training. Reading and understanding what the sub actually wants. The a constant need for repetition such as chores. Homework. Discipline can be as little as sent to room or spankings or paddlings or more advanced subs a trip to the dungeon for something a bit more attentive and direct. Tasks are normal about the house. Cleaning, laundry, kitchen duties. With successes, rewards are gained,
What are your deepest desires, pleasures, hopes for this relationship? What, in your opinion, does the Dom receive in return for his time, love, and protective care over their sub?
Well the obvious thing is the physical attachments the Dom and sub make. My hopes are always at the end of the year the sub has learned and accepted all that I’ve offered and taught. I can tell if they’ve made the correct choice.
How do you handle a sub who is autistic or has depression or any kind of other disability?
I don’t train autistic people, that just seems wrong to me and if I find any type of depression that eliminates the person as well and I’ve only trained one person with a disability and she was the best student I ever had. She was blind which making orders with gestures a complete waste of time. However, we figured out a series of sounds and soft touches to get things accomplished She is still a favorite of mine and we still get together on holidays and birthdays.
What was your worst session memory?
I had a rather iffy girl come for training. It was a request from another Dom. He had misrepresented how far along she was in her training and had sent a scene that he wanted me to do with the girl. In the middle of the scene, she thought that was the right time to switch places. Let us say that was wrong thinking on the part. I handled the situation quickly and forcefully. I bond the young lady up and called her Dom to fetch her. Upon his arrival, he got the rest of the rude earful for his part in the failed scene and attitude of his submissive. I’ve never taken another referral from him since.
Have you ever dominated two people at the same time?
Every time I enter a room with a gathering of people I Dominate more than two people at a time. Yes, I have done that as well privately and yes, it was entertaining.
Recommendations:
Recommend a film. John Wick I II III
Recommend a song. Summer Crush by Joe Satriani
Recommend a TV show. Mandalorian
Recommend a book. I’m a gamer so any Battletech Novels
Recommend a meal. Deep Dish Chicago Pizza
Last thing….name 3 things you love. Two rules are one has to be kink-related and they all have to begin with the same letter.
Penetration (any of the places)
Parent
Pets
Bio:
I am a professional. I have several post-undergraduate degrees and I am well placed in my place of business. I was the math girl in Jr High and High School then I got boobs….go figure. However, my math skills didn’t suffer from the attention from the jocks at school.
Interests: I am a Dominatrix, Domme with my own brood and we are comfortable in the midwest. I am located in Chicago at this time and have no interest in adding to my brood but I do enjoy speaking to others with D/s and bondage interests and I sometimes don’t play well with others. Treat me with respect and you will receive the same until you become an ASSHAT and then I will make the needed adjustments.
Hobbies: A passion for professional football and tabletop board gaming as well as some RPG.
What annoys me is people that are more than a decade older than me that think I can’t live without having them bent over my knee for a paddling. Look in the mirror folks if your butt is wrinkled or sagging what on earth makes you think that will turn me on? Just don’t ask to start with. Thank you.
I enjoy a lively discussion just as much as anyone else, but if I ask you to not message me, please take it to heart that my request is not an invitation for you to continue. Please note about… “sometimes doesn’t play well with others.”