The kink community has wonderful people who educate and help other kinky people. Sometimes, it is through podcasts. Other times, it is through groups or books. Here at YKF, we know many heroes in the BDSM/kink community. I asked our friends a couple questions and here are their answers.
Lucy Sweetkill
from La Maison du Rouge
Mistress Lucy Sweetkill is a Professional Dominatrix, BDSM educator, and Purveyor of Erotic Experiences. After spending many years sharpening her skills and training other Dominas at a commercial dungeon in NYC, she decided to go off on her own. Her newfound independence allowed her to expand her BDSM interests and connect with more like-minded individuals. Offering 101 + 102 type sessions for novices and couples to masterminding large group scenes, Lucy’s main goal is to guide individuals through their BDSM and erotic journey. An entrepreneur at heart with a business degree to back it up, Lucy co-founded La Maison du Rouge, a company focused on a holistic approach to the BDSM experience, with Domina Dia Dynasty. Over the last 3 years, LMdR has been focused on expanding the BDSM experience by discussing, educating, and informing our audiences about the intersections of kink, wellness, sexuality, spirituality, and social activism. We aim to build community in this regard by creating a safe space for discussing these topics as well as advocating the normalization of alternative sexualities. By challenging current social norms, we aspire to bolster a culture around consent and open communication.
La Maison du Rouge is focused on expanding the BDSM experience by discussing, educating, and informing our audiences about the intersections of kink, wellness, sexuality, spirituality, and social activism. We aim to build community in this regard by creating a safe space for discussing these topics as well as advocating the normalization of alternative sexualities. By challenging current social norms, we aspire to bolster a culture around consent and open communication.
LMdR was founded on the compassionate and principled interests of the professional dominatrix duo Lucy Sweetkill and Dia Dynasty. After meeting at a commercial BDSM house and spending many years building a sisterhood, Lucy and Dia ventured to create something of their own. They are committed to elevating BDSM and fostering community through intersectional discourse and sharing personal narratives.
Links:
www.onlyfans.com/lucysweetkill
Instagram @MistressSweetkill
Twitter @LucySweetkill
their website: www.lamaisondurouge.com
their periscope: https://www.pscp.tv/lamaisondurouge
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bdsm-101-tickets-44727485112
What are you most proud of about your involvement in the kink community?
I am proud to be involved in a strong community that is accepting of differences and fights for what they believe in. A large part of why we created La Maison du Rouge is to help continue to build a stronger community through holding space and allowing people to tell their stories as well as through our education work.
Who are some of your heroes in the kink community and how have they helped you?
I do not have a single Heroine as I have learned from all the women in the FemDomme community. They have given me support, advice, inspiration, and encouragement through my career.
What are some things that other kinky people can do to help the BDSM/kink community?
Start a conversation with someone not involved in the community about BDSM, kink, or even just sex. Talking about our sexuality is important to connecting to our sexuality and not being afraid of others’ sexuality. Sex and our sexuality is still a hard subject for people to talk about, so it’s important we start a conversation.
Video interview with Lucy Sweetkill & Dia Dynasty
VIDEO CHAT: Lucy Sweetkill & Dia Dynasty from La Maison du Rouge
Peter Tupper
Peter Tupper’s writing has appeared in Wired magazine, the Canadian Medical Association Journal, The Globe and Mail, the Utne Reader and www.TheTyee.ca. He is a co-founder of Metro Vancouver Kink, a non-profit BDSM community organization in Vancouver, BC, and remains active in the BDSM scene. He has researched and blogged about the history of consensual sadomasochism since 2005, and has presented at The Art of Loving in Vancouver, BC, the Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle, WA, and the 2012, 2013 and 2016 Master-slave Conferences. He has also been a guest on Graydancer’s Ropecast, the Masocast, Jack Rinella’s Leathercast, Erotic Awakening and the People of Kink podcasts. He edited and contributed to Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships from ancient times to the 21st century (2016).
Contact:
Blog: www.historyofbdsm.com
Twitter: @historyofbdsm
What are you most proud of about your involvement in the kink community?
Apart from writing my book and other writing work in the kink community, I’m very proud that I was one of the founders of Metro Vancouver Kink, which will have its ten-year anniversary this year. I’m so pleased that it has lasted this long and remained active and healthy.
Who are some of your heroes in the kink community and how have they helped you?
I think highly of the people who started the first hetero/pansexual kink organizations in the 1970s, like Pat Bond, Terry Kolb, and Cynthia Slater. I was also honored to meet Vi Johnson, who runs the Carter-Johnson Memorial Library of BDSM material, and I salute anyone else who’s done the work of preserving and studying kink history material, like the Leather Archive & Museum in Chicago.
What are some things that other kinky people can do to help the BDSM/kink community?
If you live in a community with an organization, volunteer. They probably need help setting up, tearing down, front door, snack bars, dungeon monitor, etc. There are other things like distributing flyers, running websites and social media, etc.
Video Interview: Peter Tupper with Nicholas Tanek:
Dr. Gloria Brame
Award-winning sex therapist, pioneering sexologist, and best-selling author, Dr. Gloria Brame has been a legendary figure in the world of BDSM since publishing her classic text, Different Loving, in 1993. A former English professor, Gloria began researching, writing, and erotically exploring radical sex and fluid relationships in the early 1980s. Gloria founded the first online BDSM support group on Compuserve in 1987 and has not ceased since then to advance the cause of sexual progress and to help destroy the anti-sex myths and bigotries that destroy human lives through her books, blogs, and projects.
Visit gloriabrame.com and bededucators.gloriabrame.com
You will also find all my books listed there:
What are you most proud of about your involvement in the kink community?
I have always aimed to put a human face on kink — to use science and evidence and experience and compassion to help people accept that sexual diversity is normal, even good. I’m proud of the work I’ve done so far towards that end.
Who are some of your heroes in the kink community and how have they helped you?
The people I admire most are the early 1970s-80s era pioneers who forged the paths we walk today of more empowered and authentic lives. Their names may not be famous but their achievements have shaped us as a Community.
What are some things that other kinky people can do to help the BDSM/kink community?
Get educated, get involved, and share what you’ve learned with others.
Video Interview:
So…
What have we learned from all of this?
Are you kinky? Well, we need people like this in our life. I’m not going to write some long bullshit thing to waste your time. There is a reason I’m doing these articles and there is a reason these people are a part of them. Support these people. Embrace your sexual expression. Stay kinky, my friends.
Heroes Of The Kink Community III
I freaking love these articles and learning about all the heroes of the kink community. Great article series ! Keep them coming !
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