Being submissive is an art form that is cultivated and enhanced through practice and patience. Submissive kinksters offer a specific kind of trust that is not easy to find and may be abused by their dominant counterparts. The openness of a submissive can be interpreted as weakness, but in fact, the ability to submit requires great strength. There are submissive friends who live the lifestyle 24/7 and there are the ones who submit just in the bedroom. Either way, submissives are a valuable part of the BDSM community. I gathered some of my favorite submissive friends, and I asked them several questions.
TheLadyAscends is a very talented artist and pagan love witch who is a good friend of mine. She has multiple subs and participates in many kinky spiritual rituals like fake blood orgies and human sacrifices.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video interview with her.
Queen Blackheart is a ProDomme, based out of Michigan with her own personal Dungeon. She is both an online forum based Professional Dominatrix as well as a lifestyle FemDomme. She is very educated and talented in erotic hypnosis.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video interview with her.
Nicholas Tanek was making his own straight jackets as a teenager (see my favorite chapter in Chipped Black Nail Polish, titled “homemade straight jacket”), so I gave him one for his birthday several years ago. The best thing about the straight jacket is that I can use bondage even when I’m too tired to take out my rope. Lazy BDSM is still fantastic sex, but I decided we were long overdue for a session with some thoughtful planning behind it. I wanted to use something with a more complete restrictive feeling than rope or a straight jacket.
Let’s have some fun with sensory deprivation, and let’s do it for FREE! Or at least for under ten bucks, depending on what you have at home.
Dominatrix V is the founder/owner of The House Of V Fetish Studio. She is a professional Dominatrix, Queer Femme kink performer, Fetish Barberette and Owner of The Fluffy Boudoir Sissies and cross dressing salon.
Mistress Lillian Bastet is a Professional Dominatrix and Artist based out of San Francisco, California. It was through her performance art that she got introduced to the world of BDSM and began to dive into the practices of domination. She approaches each session as she does her art by creating an open space for expression, creativity, and catharsis to be shared and witnessed. She refers to herself as a sensual sadist and especially enjoys play that involves some type of intentional transformation. Activities such as impact play, (to experience pain for release and pleasure), sensory deprivation (to free the mind and listen to the body), feminization (to be seen in a new way without judgment), and slave training (to teach and expand one’s ability to understand and practice servitude.) are just some of her favorites. Regardless of the play, she is most inspired by the unique connection that can happen in the D/s dynamic and feels that through this vulnerability, the empowerment of each individual can be awakened.
As a makeup and performance artist, Mistress Lillian enjoys developing and evolving herself as a dominatrix and finds that this seeps into her artistry outside of the dungeon space. She can be seen performing in clubs and stages around the Bay Area or collaborating on conceptual photography for digital and print. Having recently attended her first DomCon, she is more inspired than ever to do and promote this kind of work and is looking to develop workshops that offer insight into the practiced skills and creative passion that go into being a dominatrix.
Lady Remedy Ann is a sensually charged Mistress from Los Angeles. She offers professional services out of Sanctuary Studios since they first opened up almost 7 years ago. she was independent prior to that since 2006. Specialties are latex, She is also a fetish performance artist and have done 2 feature films “Code name Diablo.” and “The Blond Squad.” She is also in the music video Phantagram’s “You don’t get me high anymore.” She has also performed at AVN, DomCon, and have been featured and several cable shows about BDSM.
Everything has a beginning. There are various ways to initiate a kinky/BDSM lifestyle. It may start with playfully exploring kink and the offer of a little spank here or there. Perhaps, dabbling in light bondage awakens something inside of you. Or maybe, you slip on silk panties just to try them on for fun. But then one day the line between curiosity and desire is crossed, and you discover a driving need for more. BDSM becomes part of your life. So I asked a couple of my kinky friends about their first experiences of living out fantasies.
Goddess Nyx is a Los Angeles based artist, fetish model and experience creator with a penchant for freaks and a body of curves that will take your breath away… literally. Her fetish interests are deeply varied and ever-growing, but some of her favorites include smothering/squishing, sensation play, wrestling, sploshing, pet play and cbt. When she is not busting balls at Sanctuary Studios she is usually working on her line of faux fur clothing and kink accessories, because she believes that life would be better if it were fuzzier.
