I recently read Mating in Captivity by Ester Perel, and the book served as a great reminder that intimacy does not necessarily equate to a fantastic sex life. Sex in a long term relationship is not a given, and the author details how love and desire can impact bedroom excitement. Desire is that thrumming in your giggle-bits when you are sitting in traffic and your lover comes to mind. Desire burns hot at the beginning of a relationship and draws people together. Love is a little different. It’s a constant comfort and easily taken for granted. It’s the sure thing that will not waver through stomach bugs and mortgages. Love is grand, but it can dull desire with the monotony of comfort and security. Perel explores finding balance between love and desire through case studies and thought provoking insight. The book great for those of us who need to keep passion flowing in a long term relationship.
I’m the wife of a man who survived prostate cancer and who deals with low testosterone. Now that may not mean much to most people, but to those like me who have a man with these two issues, it means a great deal.
I had a lovely chat with the legendary Mistress Morgan Sterling
Professional Dommes offer a service to submissive men and women who want to experience their kinky fantasies. There are women who make their living as professional Dominatrixes. The whole scene is quite varied when it comes to different fetishes. Most professional Dommes have specialties like sissification, forced cross-dressing, CBT (cock & ball torture), sadism, chastity play, wrestling, medical play, rope, cuckolding, or water sports. The list goes on and on. Being involved in the kink community, I have made friends with several professional Dommes. So, I asked them several questions. Here are their answers.
Great podcast. Great episode. Very funny.
by Tangled Blue
The first round of the Smutmarathon closed on Sunday, and I wanted to thank all of the Kinky Friends who took the time to read and vote. Our next round is underway, and I can’t wait to share more erotic tidbits!
I reached out to our kinky friends and we shared our favorite kink websites.
We know some BDSM Erotica authors who truly represent the kink community and the culture. When I published The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself, it was filed under the genre of romance. My book is a true love story that includes kinky sex. One of the major themes in the book is how exploring kink can be healing. At the time, 50 Shades of Grey was very popular, and so many authors tried to jump on the bandwagon. When I was promoting my book, I was overwhelmed by the number of authors who did not represent BDSM in the proper way. As someone who is active in the kink community, it annoyed me. I understand some books are just fantasy, but I still think that BDSM Erotica authors have a responsibility to the kink community and their readers.
So, I asked some of my BDSM Erotica author friends several questions. Here are their answers.
I am a big believer in live and let live. This belief was never stronger than when my youngest daughter came out to me as Pansexual. I won’t claim to know a great deal about The LGBTQIA community, but I wanted to learn more so I could show love and support for my daughter.