I bought my first real sex toy in 1999 from the Good Vibrations catalog. It was a jelly purple thing that had five glorious speeds. It lasted four months. Since then, I’ve expanded my collection of toys to include buzzy, thrusty, spinning things, and simple smooth glass. I’ve had wands and rabbits; bullets and teasers; monsters and minis. They have all had their perks and downfalls. I love looking for new toys.
Month: August 2018
VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Alexxxia with Nicholas Tanek
Mistress Alexxxia is a central New York-based Dominatrix, published model, and artist. She has only been in the Domme role since May of 2017 but has been involved in the kink world since late 2011. Her specialties include financial domination, cuckolding, ass worship, ritual roleplay, and CBT (cock and ball torture).
Alexxxia was always one with a clever brain and never ending imagination, and spent most of her life as the artistic type who was often kicked around. Now, having found her inner voice and power, she has been making up for lost time, channeling it all into destroying men’s egos with a special sadistic flair.
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BDSM On A Budget: YKF Interviewee Edition (part three) #ThriftyKinkThursday
by Miss_Melissa_
The thrifty kink suggestions from the wonderful people that Nicholas has interviewed are as varied and awesome as they are! This week’s thrifty spotlight includes great suggestions from Mistress Genevieve, dungeon proprietress and educator; Susan Wright, founder of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom; and Goddess Nyx, artist, fetish model and experience creator.
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VIDEO CHAT: Dirty Lola with Nicholas Tanek
Dirty Lola is a storyteller, edutainer, sex educator, Dildo Slinger, and the creator and host of the live sex Q&A / variety show and podcast Sex Ed A Go-Go. During the last six years, she has shared her distinctive brand of kickass body and sex-positivity and her personal journey into the kink and poly lifestyles on and off stage.
Nicholas Tanek sits down with her for a video chat.
VIDEO CHAT: Miss Adah Vonn with Nicholas Tanek
Pro-Domme Adah Vonn is a true force of nature in the FemDom world. The combination of deep beliefs in the intensity of the subconscious, Female Supremacy, and human connection makes a passionate Woman willing to use her powers for good. While finishing her degree in Theatre & Vocal Performance, Miss Vonn found kink a compelling outlet via which to pursue her constant exploration of power dynamics and the exchange of control. Based out of New York’s Hudson Valley & Manhattan, she is currently expanding her empire with sessions, travel and video clip production.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat.
#ThriftyKinkThursday: Submissive Tasks
We usually break down making something cool or creating a kinky scene for less than ten bucks on Thrifty Kink Thursday. However, I thought it could be fun to explore the dynamics of relationships this week. Using BDSM as bedroom sprinkles is FREE! That’s right! You DON’T have to spend money to be freaky with another person. (Unless you are a filthy pay pig.)
VIDEO CHAT: Kayda Makenna interview with Nicholas Tanek
Kayda Makenna is just your average, bisexual, small-town Indiana 27 year old submissive, who’s been an avid fan of the kink lifestyle for over 8 years. Up until 4 years ago, she had been resigned to watching from the deep seedy corners of Tumblr, reblogging post after post of bondage/BDSM, cuckquean, anal, and degradation/humiliation kinks, amongst many, many others. Feel free to shoot her questions, comments on my blog, Kayda Makenna’s Kink Adventures or requests for work (pictures, toy reviews, private cam/video shows) over on her page at Extralunchmoney!
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.
VIDEO CHAT: Eleanor Gee with Nicholas Tanek
Eleanor Gee is a fetish enthusiast who has been in the scene for over 5 years in one way or another. In her time she has managed to play in everything from play piercings to tickling fetish. Her favorite thing to do is get people off from either sid e of the scene. She’s well known for her tailor made shows, sexy voice, and quirky personality. Her specialties include bodily function fetishes and humiliation. She offers online sessions and clips.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and talks with her.
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VIDEO CHAT: Domina Synful Pleasure w/ Nicholas Tanek
Mistress Synful Pleasure is a natural born Dominant, and Independent Professional Dominatrix in Southern California. She is available in Los Angeles, Orange County and San Diego. Her style is unique, with a delicious blend of Sadistic and Seductive. She is a luscious, tall red-head with porcelain skin and a talent for leaving you craving Her again and again. Her curves are Divine, beautifully etched as a true Goddess. Mistress Synful has a fondness for a masochist who can handle her creative and sometimes cruel games. Although, She does enjoy fetishists of all kinds and more sensual types as well. Some of her favorite types of play include Smothering, Corporal Punishment, Predicament Bondage, CBT and being served in the form of worship. For those unavailable to serve Her in person, She also offers online, and custom clips.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and talks with her.
Living M/s 24/7: Punishment by Master Bear
There are many things that separate Masters from each other and philosophies on punishment is one of the biggest. The social expectation is that Masters are emotionally removed and deliver harsh physical punishment at the drop of the hat. The worse the punishment the more “Masterly” the Master is considered. On the other side a slave that receives this type of punishment is supposed to glow and excel in its presence.
I suppose that works for some people. It however, does not work for me.
Over the last 17 years, I have developed a few rules about punishment:
- It cannot take any of my time, effort, or energy.
- It must redirect teach, explain, reinforce, and ultimately create a behavioral change.
- It cannot make me feel icky.
Let us look at each one.