Ep. 14-Syren Rayna – Consensually Speaking with Gio

BDSM Build-A-Bear, Hypnosis, Dom feels, and more! This week’s guest the alluring Syren Rayna!

Rayna is an expericed Pro-Domme both online and in person. She also specializes in Hypnotic Domination. Her recordings contain real hypnotic language patterns and Neuro Linguistic Programming and she has been studying hypnosis and NLP for a decade.

Consensually Speaking with Gio

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Reckless Kink

My Kinky Friends Discuss Some Dangers of Kink & How to Stay Safe

By Nicholas Tanek

Being kinky is fun, but it can sometimes be dangerous. I look at the kink community and the lifestyle in a very positive light. Personally, I tend to focus on the fun and friendship aspect. At the same time, there are social, physical, and mental aspects that can damage a person. If someone is not careful, they can meet the wrong person. There are certain kinks, like breath play, knife play, or fire play, where someone can get hurt if not done correctly.

So, I asked some of my kinky friends about the dangers of kink and how to stay safe. Here are their answers.

 

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Some Dos & Don’ts of Approaching People In The Kink Community

By Nicholas Tanek

Kinky people are human and humans make mistakes. There is an etiquette in the kink community, like anywhere else. Although I consider myself a switch, I am very much into Femdom. I have made some truly dumb mistakes approaching Dommes. I have grown quite a bit since then and learned some valuable lessons. Of course, I’m still learning and growing as a kinky person.  In general, it’s important to have etiquette when dealing with anyone, even in the kink community.

So, I asked some of my friends in the kink community three questions and I hope their answers may help others.

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Coming Out As Kinky

By Nicholas Tanek

Shame and secrecy have plagued some of my vanilla relationships, but those days are over. These days, I am kinky and proud. Still, there was a time in my life where I had all of these fantasies and desires I was afraid to express because of my vanilla partner.

Lynn was the love of my life and she died in 2012. When we were totally honest about our kinks, without shame, our lives changed for the better.

I knew I was not alone, so I asked some of my kinky friends about coming out as a kinky person. I asked them three questions. Here are their answers.

 

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Our friend, Jessica Knox just released an album! – “Opportunity KNOX”

Our kinky friend, Jessica Knox just released an album!

https://jessicaknox.bandcamp.com/album/opportunity-knox

Jessica Knox is a Drag Queen from Lincoln Nebraska. She can’t dance or do death drops, but she can make music and that’s exactly what she does, that and try to look SICKENING!

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Being Kinky Behind Your Vanilla Partner’s Back

By Nicholas Tanek

I was once in a miserable marriage with a woman named Alison.  The kinkiest thing we did was me tying her up while she wore lingerie and I used a vibrator on her. There was this one time I put a dog leash on her and fucked her from behind while she yelled, “I’m your slut! Yes! Fuck your little slut!” That was fun, but I also had femdom fantasies that I wanted to explore. When I was married, I never expected my ex-wife to understand my interest in forced crossdressing, male chastity, pegging, and femdom.

These days, I am a part of the kink community and live a kinky lifestyle. I’m proud of that. While I can be a switch, the femdom dynamic is strong. I spent many years trapped in a relationship that was unsatisfying and uncomfortable. I refuse to live that way, and I know that I am not alone. So, I asked some of my kinky friends to share some of their experiences of doing kinky things behind their vanilla partner’s back. I asked three questions in the hope that you, dear reader, may not feel so alone if you are in the same situation.

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WANT TO EXPLORE FEMDOM? Your Kinky Friends can help!

 

 By Nicholas Tanek

 

Femdom

  1. Or: femdomme / domme / female dom / female dominant, a woman who enjoys the dominating role in BDSM scenes.
  2. A BDSM scene controlled by a woman.

 

A Femdom relationship is not always the easiest thing to start. In the kink community, the number of men who enjoy Femdom outnumber the women who participate in it. It can be a lonely world out there for a man who is interested in Femdom, male chastity, cuckolding, and forced crossdressing.

I wanted to write this article to help both men and women who are interested in getting into Femdom relationships (professional or personal). So I asked a bunch of my kinky friends three questions. Here are their answers.

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TOO KINKY? Tales of Being Too Kinky & Being Out-Kinked.

By Nicholas Tanek

I am a kinky person and I am proud of it. I’m so proud of it, I was a guest on an episode of the ProudToBeKinky podcast. I even wrote a book about the kink community titled Your Kinky Friends. Most of my family and my vanilla friends are shocked (or at least surprised) by the kinky experiences that I talk about. At the same time, these experiences have only scratched the surface of the kink community. Basically, I am a switch, but I do enjoy Femdom, forced crossdressing, and male chastity. Some women are freaked out by that. At the same time, I have met some women who are into some hardcore kink that scares me. Just when I think I’m kinky, cool, and in the scene, I talk to someone who makes me realize there is a whole world of kink out there I know nothing about.
So I asked my kinky friends two simple questions about both sides of the kink spectrum. Here are their answers.

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Keep Your Sense of Humor: My Comic Friends Talk Sex & Comedy by Nicholas Tanek

                                   

Sex is funny. Sure, it can be serious and romantic, but sometimes it’s silly or awkward, and you have to just go with it. Many of us do not like to think of ourselves as being conceived after our parents were laughing their asses off, juggling dildos, and shoving objects in each other’s butts. Actually, these days, I think that would have been cool if I was conceived like that. My point is that sexuality and humor go hand in hand. There are some comics who have made their whole career talking about sex. There are others who avoid it. (One comic declined to do this article because she did not want to be labeled a “sex comic.”)

I wrote a book titled Your Kinky Friends. The fetish community saved my life while I was mourning my fiancée, Lynn, who passed away in 2012.  My editor told me that I managed to write a funny book about mourning and being sad. I take that comment to heart because it was humor that helped me through some of my darkest times. Sex and comedy are two very important aspects of my life. They don’t necessarily have to be combined, but I have to admit, funny people are sexy. I’m not rich. I’m barely keeping up with my looks. I’m not even healthy. Basically, I nap and fart. But, you know what? Dear reader, if we hang out, there’s a decent chance that we’ll share some laughs.

So, I asked my comic friends four questions about comedy and sexuality. Here are their answers.

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Let’s Have Sex in Public with My Kinky Friends

 

by Nicholas Tanek

I am a sentimental fool when I look back on some of my sexual adventures in public. Some include me going down on women in parks or getting blown in movie theaters. Others involve group parties. Each incident makes me look back and smile.

So, what is it about doing sexual acts in public or consensual exhibitionism (in a private space) that makes people do it? I think that for some, it’s the risk of getting caught. For others, it is about being voyeurs or being the ones who are watched. Perhaps, there is the vulnerability aspect too. So, I asked some of my kinky friends a couple of questions regarding this topic and here are their answers.

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