Award-winning sex therapist, pioneering sexologist, and best-selling author, Dr. Gloria Brame has been a legendary figure in the world of BDSM since publishing her classic text, Different Loving, in 1993. A former English professor, Gloria’s began researching, writing, and erotically exploring radical sex and fluid relationships in the early 1980s. Gloria founded the first online BDSM support group on Compuserve in 1987 and has not ceased since then to advance the cause of sexual progress and to help destroy the anti-sex myths and bigotries that destroy human lives through her books, blogs, and projects.
Bex Caputo is a sex educator, blogger, speaker, podcaster, and dildo peddler. They’ve been a proud and undeniable kinkster ever since they insisted on being served their meals in a dog bowl at the age of 8, (and even before that, probably). They’re a Virgo,1 a Hufflepuff, a pup, and a nonbinary queerdo who grew up into the pop punk skater boy they had a crush on in high school.
IM Jae is an internationally recognized sex educator and coach who specializes in kinky sex. Human sexuality has fascinated her as long as she can remember. Her mother teased her that she came out of the womb boy-crazy and curious about everything to do with sex! This might have a little something to do with the fact that she grew up listening to Howard Stern and watching episodes of Benny Hill. At 17 she bought a copy of The Kama Sutra and combed through it for hours. In college, IM Jae wrote her senior honors project on sex ethics, a first for the relatively conservative Philosophy Department.
The voice of a sexy woman can make a difference in your life, especially when she is kinky, intelligent and kind. PepLove.com is a luxury all-female owned and operated kinky phone sex and consultation line. So, to finalize this phone sex series of articles, I wanted to ask the ladies of Pep Love a couple of questions regarding the phone sex business.
Forneycation lived the first half of her life in Palmdale, CA, but now resides in a very small college town in Missouri, just minutes away from the Kansas and Oklahoma border. She has been active in the local scene on and off for 8 years. She is currently a trustee in her local group that she is trying to help build so that local kinksters can have a safe, fun, friendly, and educational space. Forneycation is also a new kinky youtuber. As a kinkster, she is a romantic submissive who enjoys Cg/l, pet play, impact play, electricity, fire, bondage, and playing with fear, though there is much more she’d like to explore. She first had BDSM experiences when she was too young, but was in love and wanted to explore. Unsurprisingly, that didn’t work out so well, but then she attended her first munch when she was 18 and has strived to take better care of herself as a submissive. She now is in an open, but vanilla marriage. Forneycation is also a huge animation, horror, film in general, and musical theatre nerd. These things can often find themselves being intertwined with kink whether it is watching cartoons in little space or researching kinky movies to later show friends.
Peter Tupper’s writing has appeared in Wired magazine, the Canadian Medical
Association Journal, the Globe and Mail, the Utne Reader and www.TheTyee.ca. He is a co-founder of Metro Vancouver Kink, a non-profit BDSM community organization in Vancouver, BC, and remains active in the BDSM scene. He has researched and blogged about the history of consensual sadomasochism since 2005, and has presented at The Art of Loving in Vancouver, BC, the Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle, WA, and the 2012, 2013 and 2016 Master-slave Conferences. He has also been a guest on Graydancer’s Ropecast, the Masocast, Jack Rinella’s Leathercast, Erotic Awakening and the People of Kink podcasts. He edited and contributed to Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships from ancient times to the 21st century (2016).
Mistress Mia Darque has been a 6’3″ Oklahoma Amazon for nearly 7 years. She is a mature 39-year old BBW. She first got into the lifestyle in her very early twenties in Chicago, IL and turned it into a profession in 2013. She was trained in a house that believed that you cannot be in a position of power without knowing what it’s like to be in the position of submission. So, first roll in BDSM was in a submissive in a Polly House of 11 individuals. Her dominance has always come to me naturally not because of the clothes that she wears or parties she attend, but more because of the mindset of “I can do for myself, so what is it you possibly have to offer?”. Her country girl exterior helps to hide her serious sadistic sorry just long enough to be able to put the fear into people’s hearts that makes mine simply skip a beat.
Because of her size and stature and demeanor, she excels at particular types and styles of domination including but not limited to… ABDL, Extreme Corporal Punishments, Lift & Carry, Interrogations, Race Play and much more. She also loves to indulge in role-play/cosplay scenes and sessions, especially with her Nerdcore clientele. This can be as mild as Frodo Baggins getting a spanking from his sword (Sting) by a Nazgul with a chip on its shoulder to Kylo-Ren being bound in ecstasy filled semi-suspension well-being tickle tortured by Darth Vader for being a whiny grandchild. She enjoys all of my sessions but these do tend to hold a special place in my heart.
In May of 2018, she was honored by being asked to be Mistress of Ceremonies at DomCon Los Angeles. This along with speaking on the subjects of polyamory and people of color in kink and fetish are some of the highlights of her career. In the aspect of lifestyle domination, she is a proud member of multiple organizations and play spaces/dungeons including ClubFem DFW Dallas-Fort Worth, TX, Impact of Memphis, TN and Xpressions of Tulsa, OK.
Mistress Lillian Bastet is a Professional Dominatrix and Artist based out of San Francisco, California. It was through her performance art that she got introduced to the world of BDSM and began to dive into the practices of domination. She approaches each session as she does her art by creating an open space for expression, creativity, and catharsis to be shared and witnessed. She refers to herself as a sensual sadist and especially enjoys play that involves some type of intentional transformation. Activities such as impact play, (to experience pain for release and pleasure), sensory deprivation (to free the mind and listen to the body), feminization (to be seen in a new way without judgment), and slave training (to teach and expand one’s ability to understand and practice servitude.) are just some of her favorites. Regardless of the play, she is most inspired by the unique connection that can happen in the D/s dynamic and feels that through this vulnerability, the empowerment of each individual can be awakened.
As a makeup and performance artist, Mistress Lillian enjoys developing and evolving herself as a dominatrix and finds that this seeps into her artistry outside of the dungeon space. She can be seen performing in clubs and stages around the Bay Area or collaborating on conceptual photography for digital and print. Having recently attended her first DomCon, she is more inspired than ever to do and promote this kind of work and is looking to develop workshops that offer insight into the practiced skills and creative passion that go into being a dominatrix.
Since starting YourKinkyFriends.com, I have been honored to meet so many wonderful kinky people. They inspired the “Heroes of the Kink Community” series. Now, I respect, support, and love all the people in the past articles. I am truly in awe of these titans of kink who got involved with these articles.
So, my kinky friends, here are some more heroes of the kink community.
