The biggest mistake that I see most new Masters make is having an extensive list of things that they want their slave to do. New Masters often times put unnecessary pressure on themselves by expecting everything all at once. Having a huge list in the beginning creates a couple of different issues.
First off, understand that if you as a Master cannot remember all of the things that you are requesting of your slave then why should your slave remember? Secondly, this creates an unrealistic expectation on both you as well as your slave as to what can be realistically achieved in the early days of your dynamic. Slaves want to excel, they want to give, and they want to be the best they can for the Masters that they love. So set them and you up for success.
Dominatrix V is the founder/owner of The House Of V Fetish Studio. She is a professional Dominatrix, Queer Femme kink performer, Fetish Barberette and Owner of The Fluffy Boudoir Sissies and cross dressing salon.
The Human Centipede concept scares me to pieces, and truthfully, I’ve never seen the movie. The idea alone is enough for me to have night terrors for days. (I have clicked on a YouTube trailer or two and watched through a gap in my fingers.) It may be scary to me, but I also find it fascinating. I love the bizarre thoughts in the brains of others. I wonder how often people think about murderous or depraved things. Do we all walk around with a running story line in our heads of mayhem and mischief? How do we express it? If we could express these ideas safely without actually harming others, would people be happier? BDSM can really help the creative thought thinkers of the world and writing about it is a great first step to experiencing and exploring fantasy.
In the world of sex and love, there are a myriad of relationship types. For many, the one type we were shown the most was monogamy. But that doesn’t mean it’s the only type that is right or the only type that is satisfying.
Masturbation calls to many people, and there are many tools that from sex shops that promise explosive orgasms for solo play. Dildos, vibrators, and magic wands are awesome, but they can be expensive experience enhancers. Your Kinky Friends decided take on the challenge of providing ways to experience sexual adventure for less than ten bucks.
Bex Caputo is a sex educator, blogger, speaker, podcaster, and dildo peddler. They’ve been a proud and undeniable kinkster ever since they insisted on being served their meals in a dog bowl at the age of 8, (and even before that, probably). They’re a Virgo,1 a Hufflepuff, a pup, and a nonbinary queerdo who grew up into the pop punk skater boy they had a crush on in high school.
Peter Tupper’s writing has appeared in Wired magazine, the Canadian Medical
Association Journal, the Globe and Mail, the Utne Reader and www.TheTyee.ca. He is a co-founder of Metro Vancouver Kink, a non-profit BDSM community organization in Vancouver, BC, and remains active in the BDSM scene. He has researched and blogged about the history of consensual sadomasochism since 2005, and has presented at The Art of Loving in Vancouver, BC, the Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle, WA, and the 2012, 2013 and 2016 Master-slave Conferences. He has also been a guest on Graydancer’s Ropecast, the Masocast, Jack Rinella’s Leathercast, Erotic Awakening and the People of Kink podcasts. He edited and contributed to Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships from ancient times to the 21st century (2016).
Mistress Lillian Bastet is a Professional Dominatrix and Artist based out of San Francisco, California. It was through her performance art that she got introduced to the world of BDSM and began to dive into the practices of domination. She approaches each session as she does her art by creating an open space for expression, creativity, and catharsis to be shared and witnessed. She refers to herself as a sensual sadist and especially enjoys play that involves some type of intentional transformation. Activities such as impact play, (to experience pain for release and pleasure), sensory deprivation (to free the mind and listen to the body), feminization (to be seen in a new way without judgment), and slave training (to teach and expand one’s ability to understand and practice servitude.) are just some of her favorites. Regardless of the play, she is most inspired by the unique connection that can happen in the D/s dynamic and feels that through this vulnerability, the empowerment of each individual can be awakened.
As a makeup and performance artist, Mistress Lillian enjoys developing and evolving herself as a dominatrix and finds that this seeps into her artistry outside of the dungeon space. She can be seen performing in clubs and stages around the Bay Area or collaborating on conceptual photography for digital and print. Having recently attended her first DomCon, she is more inspired than ever to do and promote this kind of work and is looking to develop workshops that offer insight into the practiced skills and creative passion that go into being a dominatrix.
