Doing service in public is a completely different animal than serving in private. The noise, distractions, and challenges of a public event make being a conscientious servant very different than serving in a private venue. I encourage people to practice public service at a BDSM event to gain confidence and poise. This different type of experience allows you to troubleshoot elements to work on to strengthen your bond.
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VIDEO CHAT: Monica Lee Floyd with Nicholas Tanek
Monica Lee Floyd is an award-winning artist and author.
Nicholas Tanek sits down with her for a video interview.
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VIDEO CHAT: Luna Darke & Nicholas Tanek discuss EXXXotica, sex toys, and more!
Luna Darke and Nicholas Tanek discuss going to EXXXotica 2018, sex toys (Miss Melissa’s sex toy foot locker, friendship, and my book, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself
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VIDEO CHAT: Lady Von Piper (Cultress) with Nicholas Tanek
Lady Von Piper, better known to her submissives as “Cultress”; is a 23-year-old Canadian who has been in the scene professionally for 2 years, and has enjoyed it for many years previous. She specializes in phone sex and verbal role play. She has had hundreds of submissives, ranging in location from Germany, to Russia, to her own hometown in Ontario. She is extremely versatile and creative and loves to be challenged by authentically odd fetishes.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.
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Our Kinky Friends Discuss the Sexuality of HALLOWEEN Costumes by Nicholas Tanek
I love Halloween. The atmosphere of delightfully creepy things is the perfect backdrop for wicked fun. Now, people are allowed to dress up any time of year. If I want to dress as Batman on the fourth of July, I will put on a mask and run around my house saving the houseplants. I may want to be a sissy maid on a Tuesday night so I put on my French maid outfit and let my Domme fuck me with a strap-on dildo. I can do this any day of the year, but the Halloween season makes dressing up magical.
It feels so good to put on a costume and be someone different for a little while. Adults have the option to add the spin of sex appeal to their tricks and treats. Normally shy people may be strutting around in corsets and thongs and the energy is infectious. The classic sexy costumes like French maid, sexy nurse, or Morticia from The Addams Family are always a welcome sight, but the creative aspect of Halloween makes it extra exciting. I never know what sexed up concoction I will see at a dungeon party, Wal-Mart, or tagging along for trick or treating. I may see John Snow from Game of Thrones looking hot in a pair of fishnets with a little cleavage showing or Bert and Ernie in ball gags and leather. Adults are sexual beings and Halloween is the perfect holiday to let sexual creativity come out to play.
The sexuality of Halloween costumes has always intrigued me. So, I asked my kinky friends about how outfits affect and change their sex lives.
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VIDEO CHAT: Antique Deb from Slave Nation Radio with Nicholas Tanek
Antique Deb is the host of Slave Nation Radio on Beaten Path Network. She considers herself a lifestyle slave and has her own wonderful radio show.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.
Caricatures in BDSM by Master Bear
It is not uncommon for people coming into BDSM to use caricatures as a model on how to act until they figure themselves out. These caricatures are sometimes based on our limited books/movies and extensive porn. Other times they are based on a preconceived notion of how someone with “that identity” would act. In the beginning of finding your identity having a caricature can be empowering. It can give you an idea into who you want to be. I remember my caricature as a new Dominant. The caricature I assumed was quiet, calm, and hyper vigilant. It took so much energy that I couldn’t sustain it outside of the public BDSM space, but that is when I felt I needed it.
Our Kinky Submissive Friends by Nicholas Tanek
Being submissive is an art form that is cultivated and enhanced through practice and patience. Submissive kinksters offer a specific kind of trust that is not easy to find and may be abused by their dominant counterparts. The openness of a submissive can be interpreted as weakness, but in fact, the ability to submit requires great strength. There are submissive friends who live the lifestyle 24/7 and there are the ones who submit just in the bedroom. Either way, submissives are a valuable part of the BDSM community. I gathered some of my favorite submissive friends, and I asked them several questions.
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VIDEO CHAT: Nyxi Leon with Nicholas Tanek
Nyxi Leon is a trans porn actress who was feminized by Tia Tizzianni.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.
VIDEO CHAT: Slave Heather with Nicholas Tanek
Slave Heather is in a D/s relationship and considers herself her Master’s slave (Master David). She is also in a leather family.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.
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