It is not uncommon for people coming into BDSM to use caricatures as a model on how to act until they figure themselves out. These caricatures are sometimes based on our limited books/movies and extensive porn. Other times they are based on a preconceived notion of how someone with “that identity” would act. In the beginning of finding your identity having a caricature can be empowering. It can give you an idea into who you want to be. I remember my caricature as a new Dominant. The caricature I assumed was quiet, calm, and hyper vigilant. It took so much energy that I couldn’t sustain it outside of the public BDSM space, but that is when I felt I needed it.
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BDSM On A Budget: YKF Interviewee Edition (part four) #ThriftyKinkThursday
by Miss_Melissa_
The inspiring suggestions from Nicholas’s interviewees continue to impress me. This week’s thrifty spotlight includes tips from Alex Andrews, sex worker alumnus and activist; Lady Remedy Ann, professional Mistress; Jacqi Kill, lead singer of THE BAD DRUGS and fetish entertainer; and Satin Jade, satin fetishist.
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Our Kinky Submissive Friends by Nicholas Tanek
Being submissive is an art form that is cultivated and enhanced through practice and patience. Submissive kinksters offer a specific kind of trust that is not easy to find and may be abused by their dominant counterparts. The openness of a submissive can be interpreted as weakness, but in fact, the ability to submit requires great strength. There are submissive friends who live the lifestyle 24/7 and there are the ones who submit just in the bedroom. Either way, submissives are a valuable part of the BDSM community. I gathered some of my favorite submissive friends, and I asked them several questions.
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VIDEO CHAT: Nyxi Leon with Nicholas Tanek
Nyxi Leon is a trans porn actress who was feminized by Tia Tizzianni.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.
VIDEO CHAT: Slave Heather with Nicholas Tanek
Slave Heather is in a D/s relationship and considers herself her Master’s slave (Master David). She is also in a leather family.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a video chat with her.
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VIDEO CHAT: Miss Lydia with Nicholas Tanek
Miss Lydia has been part of the BDSM community for over 20 years. She started out as a submissive and for the last 12 years, she has been a Domme. Miss Lydia is a lifestyle/ Pro Domme living the lifestyle 24/7. She hosts Pro sessions in a fully set up playspace/ dungeon (Lady’s Wicked Playground) near Allentown Pa. Miss Lydia accepts novice – experienced clients.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and has a chat with her.
VIDEO CHAT: Siren Thorn with Nicholas Tanek
Miss Siren Thorn aka the Inked Asian Goddess, is a Toronto based Asian professional dominatrix, fetish content producer, and fetish actress. Physically, she is a dangerous combination of femininity, exotic and alternative allure and strength – 5’3″, toned and tattooed, with raven hair, mesmerizing eyes and deadly curves.
Nicholas Tanek sits down and interviews with her.
Our Erotic Kinky Artist Friends Part II by Nicholas Tanek
The power of creativity mixed with eroticism is limitless, weird, and beautiful. Once again, I needed to reach out to my erotic kinky artist friends and ask them several questions about erotic/kinky art.
Here are their answers…
Kitten Wants: SHOP SMART #ThriftyKinkThursday by Tangled Blue
By TangledBlue
Toys can be a huge part of a BDSM dynamic. Some people may have a favorite item that they use for every session, but other kinksters are collectors that revel in the acquisition of toys. I fall in the collector category. I love the thrill of buying a new toy or scene enhancer. One of my favorite places to shop is /sub-shop.com/. This online store has ALL the fun normal things like handcuffs and whips plus items that tug at your imagination. For this week’s Thrifty Kink, I wanted to feature this cool store so that My Kinky Friends can get the most bang for their buck when they are shopping for new gear.
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