Heroes save lives and the kink community saved mine. My life was a mess. I met some wonderful people who have been kind and helpful throughout my journey within the kink community. This is only part one in a series about people who I truly think are heroes in the kink community.
So, I talked to some of my kinky heroes and asked them questions about giving back to the community. Here are their answers.
by Miss_Melissa_
Did you ever hump the side of the bath tub or the arm of the couch? Did you ever make a masturbation tent because teenage-you couldn’t stand the staring, judging eyes of all the posters on your walls and ceiling? Did you ever put something that wasn’t “body safe” inside of yourself, lose hold of it, and then pee your bed trying to push it back out? No? Is it just me? Listen, we’re all friends here. Be honest. I know I’m not the only one.
Continue reading My First Sex Toy: Weird Shit We Did Before We Had Proper Sex Toys
Throughout the years, I have known many vanilla people who got involved in kink and now, they feel like kink saved their lives. Not everyone can wrap their head around kinky sexual expression. Some people cannot even understand the concept of being tied up. Once they break their borders, a sense of healing starts. I am a recovering drug addict. I’m not going back to drugs and kink is a major reason for that. While I do have this addictive behavior, it was love, kink, and sexual expression that helped me get through drug addiction and emotional loss after the death of the love of my life.
So, I asked some of our kinky friends some questions about how being kinky healed them. Here are their answers.
Continue reading THE HEALING POWER OF KINK by Nicholas Tanek
I’m a sarcastic smart ass… and not just a little bit. I was born without a filter. I’m sometimes a little blunt and can be a raging outspoken bitch at other times. I’m not an average woman. I was born demented, deformed and disabled. That’s as close to a triple D as I’ll ever get. (Yay, a boob joke!)
Disabled people can be and are sexual human beings. Let me say that again for the people who might have missed it. Disabled people CAN be and ARE sexual human beings. Being disabled does not stop our hormones from revving up. It doesn’t make us magically turn into cold fish who find no joy in intimacy, kink, or just plain hardcore banging.
Continue reading Crippling the Disability and Sex Stigma by SassyWitch666
by Tangled Blue
I love playing with sex toys, and I bought a Magic Wand because it’s a classic toy that I had not tried. My husband was super excited, and with visions of forced orgasms in his head, he bought a harness to hold the tool in place. We eagerly discussed a scene where he would use the tool and harness while I was tied to the wall spread eagle under a spotlight. Sounds good, right? Well…
New Episode starring Author & former sex worker @lola_davina!
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Continue reading Nicholas Tanek talks KINK on THE QUESTIONABLE BEHAVIOR PODCAST
I am “out” as a kinky person, but many of our friends like to keep their kinky lifestyle private. Some have important jobs. Some have judgmental friends and family members. Others just prefer to keep their kink hidden. For whatever the reason, people sometimes go to great lengths to keep their kinky lifestyle hidden.
So, I asked a couple of our kinky friends about keeping their kinky life a secret. Here are their answers…
Continue reading KEEPING YOUR KINKY LIFE SECRET by Nicholas Tanek
By Nicholas Tanek
My mother and father taught me to respect people. They would tell me, “Treat people how you would like to be treated.” When I was young, I’m sure I made the improper or obnoxious joke every once in a while. I’ve grown up and I’ve changed. Being friends with women and listening to women changed me.
Throughout the years of hanging out with female friends, I have learned that many males can be considered a predator. There are women who live in a constant state of terror due to misogyny and sexism. I went to college in the 1990s during a heightened state of campus date-rape awareness. The last thing I wanted to do was make a person feel unsafe. At the same time, sexual misconduct can come from women too. I’ve personally experienced it. These days, the #MeToo movement has sparked a full-on revolution on how people look at sexuality, sexual misconduct, and sexual harassment.
This is video of Nicholas Tanek & Luna Darke being guests on the One Guy Talking Podcast. It’s the BDSM/kink episode.
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