Being a professional Dominatrix is a beautifully unique profession but also hard work. Here at YKF, we speak to Pro Dommes all the time. Especially in these politically turbulent times (FOSTA/SESTA), YKF wants to celebrate the Professional Dominatrix and give readers insight into their lifestyle. I decided to do part III of the series.
So, I asked several of my Professional Dominatrix friends some questions, and here are their answers…
Dominatrix V is the founder/owner of The House Of V Fetish Studio. She is a professional Dominatrix, Queer Femme kink performer, Fetish Barberette and Owner of The Fluffy Boudoir Sissies and cross dressing salon.
Mistress Mia Darque has been a 6’3″ Oklahoma Amazon for nearly 7 years. She is a mature 39-year old BBW. She first got into the lifestyle in her very early twenties in Chicago, IL and turned it into a profession in 2013. She was trained in a house that believed that you cannot be in a position of power without knowing what it’s like to be in the position of submission. So, first roll in BDSM was in a submissive in a Polly House of 11 individuals. Her dominance has always come to me naturally not because of the clothes that she wears or parties she attend, but more because of the mindset of “I can do for myself, so what is it you possibly have to offer?”. Her country girl exterior helps to hide her serious sadistic sorry just long enough to be able to put the fear into people’s hearts that makes mine simply skip a beat.
Because of her size and stature and demeanor, she excels at particular types and styles of domination including but not limited to… ABDL, Extreme Corporal Punishments, Lift & Carry, Interrogations, Race Play and much more. She also loves to indulge in role-play/cosplay scenes and sessions, especially with her Nerdcore clientele. This can be as mild as Frodo Baggins getting a spanking from his sword (Sting) by a Nazgul with a chip on its shoulder to Kylo-Ren being bound in ecstasy filled semi-suspension well-being tickle tortured by Darth Vader for being a whiny grandchild. She enjoys all of my sessions but these do tend to hold a special place in my heart.
In May of 2018, she was honored by being asked to be Mistress of Ceremonies at DomCon Los Angeles. This along with speaking on the subjects of polyamory and people of color in kink and fetish are some of the highlights of her career. In the aspect of lifestyle domination, she is a proud member of multiple organizations and play spaces/dungeons including ClubFem DFW Dallas-Fort Worth, TX, Impact of Memphis, TN and Xpressions of Tulsa, OK.
Mistress Lillian Bastet is a Professional Dominatrix and Artist based out of San Francisco, California. It was through her performance art that she got introduced to the world of BDSM and began to dive into the practices of domination. She approaches each session as she does her art by creating an open space for expression, creativity, and catharsis to be shared and witnessed. She refers to herself as a sensual sadist and especially enjoys play that involves some type of intentional transformation. Activities such as impact play, (to experience pain for release and pleasure), sensory deprivation (to free the mind and listen to the body), feminization (to be seen in a new way without judgment), and slave training (to teach and expand one’s ability to understand and practice servitude.) are just some of her favorites. Regardless of the play, she is most inspired by the unique connection that can happen in the D/s dynamic and feels that through this vulnerability, the empowerment of each individual can be awakened.
As a makeup and performance artist, Mistress Lillian enjoys developing and evolving herself as a dominatrix and finds that this seeps into her artistry outside of the dungeon space. She can be seen performing in clubs and stages around the Bay Area or collaborating on conceptual photography for digital and print. Having recently attended her first DomCon, she is more inspired than ever to do and promote this kind of work and is looking to develop workshops that offer insight into the practiced skills and creative passion that go into being a dominatrix.
Sugarcunt is a nonbinary, queer, nonmonogamous, disabled sex blogger, sex educator, social media maven, and humiliatrix. Sugar loves being loud and naked on the internet for fun and profit. They are an intensely kinky switch with a wide range of dungeon and D/s role interests, whose flames are stoked by submission, but will warm the room with dominant energy.
Sugar’s professional dominatrix specialties include chastity, domestic service, financial domination, humiliation, degradation, and emotional sadism. As a sub, they are most authentically a bratty, age-independent little. Sugar began their foray into the sex industry in 2011 with blogging and reviewing sex toys, but their interests span all over the adult industry and they intend to be a “lifer” within the community.
Sugar lives with their cat and a small army of sex toys on land ceded by the Duwamish, Puget Sound Salish, and Columbia-Wenatchi tribes near Seattle, Washington. When they aren’t teaching holiday dinner guests about urethral sounding, making boys cry, or giving free marketing lessons on Twitter, they’re probably playing with their tarot deck or re-reading the rules to a game for the fourth time in a row.
Goddess Nyx is a Los Angeles based artist, fetish model and experience creator with a penchant for freaks and a body of curves that will take your breath away… literally. Her fetish interests are deeply varied and ever-growing, but some of her favorites include smothering/squishing, sensation play, wrestling, sploshing, pet play and cbt. When she is not busting balls at Sanctuary Studios she is usually working on her line of faux fur clothing and kink accessories, because she believes that life would be better if it were fuzzier.
Mistress Lillith is a successful femdom fetishist extraordinaire. While her interests and knowledge of kinks and fetishes are seemingly never-ending (with a few exceptions), she specializes in humiliation, ABDL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover) and sissification/feminization training.
Mistress Elaina de la Mer from PepLove.com talks with Nicholas Tanek from YourKinkyFriends.com
Elaina is a lifestyle Mistress and PEP Lady since 2013 and the Executive Coordinator of PEP since 2015. She is open to exploring all areas of sexuality including kink, fetish and BDSM with clients and especially enjoys exploring topics that are considered taboo. She enjoys facilitating her clients’ fantasies and helping them to be able to open up and be themselves, in so doing they are able to accept their kinks and grow as a person, submissive, slut or slave. Along with her phone sex and in-person sessions, Elaina produces fetish clips for Giantess, Incest and Femdom fans.
