A Safe, Sane, & Consensual Summer -6.2023 w/ Nicco Noire, Carli de Ville, Mistress Jennifer & Nicholas Tanek

Nicco Noire & Nicholas Tanek create The 12 Steps Of A Safe, Sane, & Consensual Summer with the help of Carli de Ville (Sexologist) & Mistress Jennifer (Houston, TX). We talk about the perils of alcohol, the beauty of lube, finding a neutral place, inflatable unicorns, rainbow dildos, whips, straight jackets, & more!

NOTE: It’s the summer of 2023 and we want to have safe, sane, and consensual kinky fun. These lists are a work in progress. Contact us at friendskinky@gmail.com to add/change the list.

 

The 12 Steps of SSC (Safe, Sane, & Consensual).

        1. `AWARENESS – Be aware of other people’s anxiety and time! – Trust your instincts
        2. COMMUNICATION  – Both the Dominant and Submissive be in 100% agreement on what types of BDSM play to be included in the session. An open line of communication
        3. HEALTH CONDITIONS (ie. BLOOD SUGAR (Genevieve) – knowledge of health conditions.)
        4. CONSENT – “I’m not your sub. You’re not my Domme.”- how do you walk the line between being a Dominant person and being abusive?
        5. WATER / HYDRATE
        6. BE AWARE OF CHEMICALS
        7. SAFE WOODS
        8. NO DRUGS & ALCOHOL? (but it’s so much fun!?!?)  No being under the influence of drugs, alcohol, or any mind-altering substances when any BDSM play.
        9. PATIENCE
        10. Do NOT FORCE your kink on anyone
        11. DON’T BE A DICK   – Karma is a bitch
        12. Attention to wounds.

Summer:

      1. Hydrate
      2. ICE
      3. No alcohol …. Dehydration and heat
      4. Make sure summer accessories are cute
      5. No peeing in the pool
      6. Do not tie up anyone in the pool
      7. Sunburns are not BDSM punishment because it can lead to cancer – Sunblock
      8. Chemicals
      9. Do not stand in front of a moving tractor
      10. Unicorns make for an excellent floatation device
      11. Fire play (bonfires, BBQ, etc)
      12. Safe pervertibles

Thank you to Mistress Schari (Mischief Matters), Mistress Genevieve (New Orleans), and Goddess Starla Vamp for contributions.

VIDEO CHAT: The A N @ L Episode w/ Goddess Giselle, Nicco Noire, & Luna Darke

 

VIDEO CHAT: Carlos Cavazos (from Ask Carlos) w/ Nicholas Tanek

VIDEO CHAT: Mistress Jennifer with Nicholas Tanek

 

How do I seek help for my mental health?
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): For general information on mental health and to locate treatment services in your area, call SAMHSA’s National Helpline at 1-800-662-HELP (4357). SAMHSA also has an online treatment locator on its website that can be searched by location.

Important Note: We are no authorities of kink. We are experienced, but we are exploring this world just like you. We did this as an on-the-spot rough draft of a 12 Step Program