The biggest mistake that I see most new Masters make is having an extensive list of things that they want their slave to do. New Masters often times put unnecessary pressure on themselves by expecting everything all at once. Having a huge list in the beginning creates a couple of different issues.
First off, understand that if you as a Master cannot remember all of the things that you are requesting of your slave then why should your slave remember? Secondly, this creates an unrealistic expectation on both you as well as your slave as to what can be realistically achieved in the early days of your dynamic. Slaves want to excel, they want to give, and they want to be the best they can for the Masters that they love. So set them and you up for success.
In his interviews, the Esteemed Nicholas Tanek has graciously included a budget kink question as a nod to these Thrifty Kink articles we try to post each week. The amazing folks that have answered this question have given some really fantastic ideas, and so I have begun harvesting these pearls of wisdom.
The Human Centipede concept scares me to pieces, and truthfully, I’ve never seen the movie. The idea alone is enough for me to have night terrors for days. (I have clicked on a YouTube trailer or two and watched through a gap in my fingers.) It may be scary to me, but I also find it fascinating. I love the bizarre thoughts in the brains of others. I wonder how often people think about murderous or depraved things. Do we all walk around with a running story line in our heads of mayhem and mischief? How do we express it? If we could express these ideas safely without actually harming others, would people be happier? BDSM can really help the creative thought thinkers of the world and writing about it is a great first step to experiencing and exploring fantasy.
In the world of sex and love, there are a myriad of relationship types. For many, the one type we were shown the most was monogamy. But that doesn’t mean it’s the only type that is right or the only type that is satisfying.
The voice of a sexy woman can make a difference in your life, especially when she is kinky, intelligent and kind. PepLove.com is a luxury all-female owned and operated kinky phone sex and consultation line. So, to finalize this phone sex series of articles, I wanted to ask the ladies of Pep Love a couple of questions regarding the phone sex business.
Peter Tupper’s writing has appeared in Wired magazine, the Canadian Medical
Association Journal, the Globe and Mail, the Utne Reader and www.TheTyee.ca. He is a co-founder of Metro Vancouver Kink, a non-profit BDSM community organization in Vancouver, BC, and remains active in the BDSM scene. He has researched and blogged about the history of consensual sadomasochism since 2005, and has presented at The Art of Loving in Vancouver, BC, the Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle, WA, and the 2012, 2013 and 2016 Master-slave Conferences. He has also been a guest on Graydancer’s Ropecast, the Masocast, Jack Rinella’s Leathercast, Erotic Awakening and the People of Kink podcasts. He edited and contributed to Our Lives, Our History: Consensual Master/slave relationships from ancient times to the 21st century (2016).
When it comes to sexuality, people often overlook the sexiest of sex organs: the brain. Sexy, after all, is a state of mind. It doesn’t matter your dress size, your blemishes, your physical limitations, your lingerie, or lack thereof – it’s all in the presentation. It’s an attitude. It’s a voice. You can use your imagination and your words to paint a scene, to transport your partner to a place they’ve never been before.
“I’ve been told that I’m very, very good at this.”
Mistress Mia Darque has been a 6’3″ Oklahoma Amazon for nearly 7 years. She is a mature 39-year old BBW. She first got into the lifestyle in her very early twenties in Chicago, IL and turned it into a profession in 2013. She was trained in a house that believed that you cannot be in a position of power without knowing what it’s like to be in the position of submission. So, first roll in BDSM was in a submissive in a Polly House of 11 individuals. Her dominance has always come to me naturally not because of the clothes that she wears or parties she attend, but more because of the mindset of “I can do for myself, so what is it you possibly have to offer?”. Her country girl exterior helps to hide her serious sadistic sorry just long enough to be able to put the fear into people’s hearts that makes mine simply skip a beat.
Because of her size and stature and demeanor, she excels at particular types and styles of domination including but not limited to… ABDL, Extreme Corporal Punishments, Lift & Carry, Interrogations, Race Play and much more. She also loves to indulge in role-play/cosplay scenes and sessions, especially with her Nerdcore clientele. This can be as mild as Frodo Baggins getting a spanking from his sword (Sting) by a Nazgul with a chip on its shoulder to Kylo-Ren being bound in ecstasy filled semi-suspension well-being tickle tortured by Darth Vader for being a whiny grandchild. She enjoys all of my sessions but these do tend to hold a special place in my heart.
In May of 2018, she was honored by being asked to be Mistress of Ceremonies at DomCon Los Angeles. This along with speaking on the subjects of polyamory and people of color in kink and fetish are some of the highlights of her career. In the aspect of lifestyle domination, she is a proud member of multiple organizations and play spaces/dungeons including ClubFem DFW Dallas-Fort Worth, TX, Impact of Memphis, TN and Xpressions of Tulsa, OK.
Since starting YourKinkyFriends.com, I have been honored to meet so many wonderful kinky people. They inspired the “Heroes of the Kink Community” series. Now, I respect, support, and love all the people in the past articles. I am truly in awe of these titans of kink who got involved with these articles.
So, my kinky friends, here are some more heroes of the kink community.
