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THE BIG LEBOWSKI w/ Anna Valentina – (The YKF Cinema Show)

“It’s the cult classic that’s wearing a tailored coat”

The Dude abides, and so do we on the YKF Cinema Show! Dive deep into Coen Brothers neo-noir classic The Big Lebowski with brilliant dominatrix educator and Bussy Boss Anna Valentina (A Lebowski Priestess) as we unpack White Russians, bowling philosophy, that rug that tied the room together, foot fetish roleplay, Walter’s chaos energy, Maude’s femdom goddess power, nihilists, and subspace surrender.

“Fly your little freak flag. That’s exactly what Lebowski is about.”

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Lady Vesper (Power Unleashed) – 8.2026

“Dominance is an internal state.”

Lady Vesper is a writer, podcaster (Power Unleashed podcast), and online Domme known for precise language, an intellectual approach, and a complete refusal of easy FemDom clichés. On this episode of YKF: Your Kinky Friends, Lady Vesper shares how her first female submissive inspired her poetry, the unsolicited DMs that pushed her into financial domination and full-spectrum control, and why authentic dominance means creating from her own desires—not catering to male fantasy. We dig into the primacy of psychological dominance, the impossibility of fully separating psychological and physical control, long-term D/s dynamics, practical servitude, and her approach to financial devotion as a real-world expression of power, priority, and sacrifice.

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Dr. Stacy Friedman (The Purple Passion Project) – 7.2026

“Women Need to Be Masturbating”

Dr. Stacy Friedman (from The Purple Passion Project podcast) is a Clinical Sexologist and certified sex coach who joins Nicholas Tanek for a raw, shame-free conversation about sex after 50. In this episode, they destroy the biggest myth about midlife sexuality: that menopause kills your sex life. The truth? Many people are having the best sex of their lives once they drop performance pressure and embrace what actually works now.

“Our brains thrive on novelty.”

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SEX, LIES AND VIDEOTAPE w/ Goddess Rainey – (The YKF Cinema Show)

“It’s beautiful. It’s really beautiful. I like that”

Goddess Rainey (from Charlotte, NC) joins Nicholas Tanek on THE YKF CINEMA SHOW for a breakdown of Steven Soderbergh’s groundbreaking 1989 indie masterpiece, Sex, Lies, and Videotape. She delivers sharp insights into the film’s core themes of control, honesty versus lies, vulnerability, and power exchange, while exploring consent, voyeurism, repressed sexuality, and raw desire. With her signature wit and expertise as a medical play aficionado and sadist queen, Goddess Rainey dissects James Spader’s impotent voyeur Graham, Andie MacDowell’s frigid-to-freed Ann, Peter Gallagher’s cheating toxic John, and Laura San Giacomo’s chaotic hedonist Cynthia.

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Anna Valentina & Her Brother – 2026

“Our mom had impeccable taste.”

Recorded in the wake of their mother’s memorial, Anna Valentina and her brother are reunited on YKF to discuss the passing of their mother. Anna brings her actual sibling on the mic — the person who knows all her secrets — for a raw, honest conversation about grief, family, authenticity, and the powerful Korean matriarch who shaped them both. From late-night “biology lessons” through the bedroom wall to leather boots, pearls, and unapologetic female strength, they trace how their mother’s example flows directly into Anna’s life as a pro Domme and into David’s own path. No judgment, just real talk about loss in waves, acceptance, bravery, and running toward what scares you. This episode proves how kink, family, and real life can hold space together.

“I’m sorry I didn’t understand you more.”

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VIDEODROME w/ Mistress Genevieve & Peter Tupper – (The YKF Cinema Show)

“She’s totally in control of her pain” – Mistress Genevieve

The YKF Cinema Show gets sucked into David Cronenberg’s 1982 body-horror masterpiece Videodrome with professional dominatrix/dark cinema lover Mistress Genevieve and BDSM historian Peter Tupper (A Lover’s Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism). We explore ideas of the media as a virus, masochistic surrender, erotic transformation, dominant/submissive power games, and the seductive “New Flesh” philosophy—revealing how Cronenberg fuses sex, pain, control, and technology into one of the most transgressive films ever made.

Everything discussed is between consenting adults.

Watch now. Long Live the New Flesh.

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TRAINING DAY f/ Griselda Venum – (The YKF Cinema Show)

“I always wanted to pistol whip somebody.” – Griselda Venum

Griselda Venum and Nicholas Tanek break down the film, TRAINING DAY. They explore the film’s layered trauma of rape, the corrosive nature of power, chess versus checkers, Denzel Washington’s timeless performance, and the smiles-and-cries duality that makes the movie unforgettable. Was Jake Hoyt the shepherd? And does King Kong have shit on Alonzo?

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LOVE & LEASHES w/ Briska – (The YKF Cinema Show)

Briska (NJ rope legend, fem daddy, and 24/7 kink powerhouse) joins Nicholas Tanek on The YKF Cinema Show for LOVE & LEASHES! We discuss this hot Korean office romcom: fantasy vs reality, real BDSM contracts, puppy play chaos, those deadly red heels, and one hell of a female empowerment arc. We talk office package mix-ups, squirting at work disasters, and why you should NEVER get sex toys delivered to the office.

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PULP FICTION f/ Griselda Venum – (The YKF Cinema Show)

Griselda Venum educates Nicholas Tanek on the BDSM of PULP FICTION. We talk about how the gimp’s representation of the BDSM community, fetishistic murder, what’s in the case, who keyed Vincent Vega’s car, the toxic romance of Butch, and how Vincent Vega ruins everything!